So happy to be back behind the camera. Happy to be back on the game, doing my thing, owning my weird + sharing what I know with you. It’s like I re-found my element, you know? Reclaimed my thunder? Discovered my patronus. Feels amazing.
But you know what feels even A-MA-ZING-ER? Your sweet comments. Your YAY! notes. Your cheers. I see them. I take them all in like a baptim of love confetti. Thanks for making me feel special.
Appreciation, the greatest gift you can give another. Hands down. Whoever tells you it’s money is a fool. Or a lier.
Today I’m returning (like the Return of the Yedi, except it’s the Return of Mayi), to talk about business slumps. Maybe the cash register isn’t sounding as much these days. Perhaps your experiencing a decline of orders. A prolonged drop in engagement. Or is it a fall of ideas? Where is the Epiphany Fairy when you need her?
So business is slow, ah?
I’m not here to examine why. I’m here to help you do something about it now.
In this video I’m going to share with you 15 things you can do when business is being a freaking turtle, to speed things up. To kick slowness in the butt if you will.
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Are you excited to try one, two, maybe three of these? Which are you gonna work on? Tell me in the comments.
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Guess who’s back in front of the camera?
Today we’re talking about how to deal with trolls + haters + copycats!
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It’s true, the internet is making it easier than ever for trolls to troll + for haters to hate + for copycats (ahem ahem lazy people) to steal.
Simultaneously, there’s a big coalition happening. When you’re kind. When you act with integrity. When you apologize for any wrongdoing or misunderstanding. When you handle sticky situations with grace. When you make a genuine effort to be nice. To make amends. To over deliver. To dazzle your customers with an unexpected surprise. You become memorable. People will remember you. They will come back. And they will tell their friends about you too.
So that’s my take on trolls + haters + copycats.
How do you handle trolls + haters + copycats? Tell me in the comments.
Thank you so much for watching.
I mean girls.
I’m SO excited about this post!
If you’ve been following me on social media (on Instagram or Facebook), you know that it’s been a tough last couple of days. We’re “sleep whispering” Baby O into her big girl crib + helping her zzz longer stretches. We’re EXHAUSTED. If you don’t hear from me again, please dial 911. Tell them to pick us up with an ambulance, the helicopter kind, and inject us with Mickey Mouse ice cream bar elixir.
To tell you the truth, the hardest part hasn’t even been the lack of sleep. It’s been the emotional roller coaster, the upside down kind. The midnight loser tapes that tell you: “You’re not cut out for this mom gig. You’re not good enough.” So, I’ve been asking myself that question a lot lately, “Am I a good mom?”
And here’s what I came up with: I am the best mom when I’m OKAY.
Want to be a good mom? Take care of yourself.
How can you take care of yourself?
- Cry it out with a bestie who deserves to listen.
- Wear red lipstick.
- Take a bubble bath.
- Get a babysitter, or better yet, call grandma.
- Go to dance class.
- Give yourself a gold star for brushing your teeth.
- Treat yourself with your favorite breakfast.
- Wear stretchy pants.
- Quit your job, get one you love.
- Buy something online.
- Invite a friend over for a dessert cookoff.
Do whatever you need to do. But! DO IT.
Your baby needs you to be OKAY. We need you to be OKAY.
Being OKAY starts NOW!
And you know what makes me OKAY more than anything else in the world? Well, besides kisses from the Mr. of course. Dessert. Dessert making + dessert eating. That makes me the most OKAYist person in the galaxy.
And that brings me here.
To boost my OKAY levels, I’ve invited one of the smiliest + most crazy talented girl bosses I know for a Life is Messy Kitchen Sweet Cookoff, the friendly kind, where we both win + eat our own desserts over belly laughs.
Meet Rivca Zayat!
Rivca is the 24-year old who right out of college refused to set foot in an office. That’s when she opened her, now famous, Instagram account @FitSeed with the purpose of recreating not-so-healthy sweet recipes + turning them into good for you treats. She then went on to found FitSeed, “The Bakery” and the rest is history!
One thing that Rivca + I share is a love of food, the kind that loves you back. I will say, though, that Rivca is on another level than I am of loving food… making food… and fully living a healthy lifestyle.
I thought it would be fun to do an interview with her where we dive into her life with food + health in general. Let’s get to it!
1. Tell us something about you that’s not in your bio.
My best recipes are always inspired by someone, cooking is an act driven by love and inspiration!
2. What is your most “preciouzzz” moment or happiest memory in the kitchen?
It was something very unexpected! I have a client/good friend and she totally loves nutella and anything nut butter related (just like me hehe) and I remember that one day she stopped by my bakery and I happened to have a fresh batch of “Nutella” stuffed cookies (which btw I had not tried yet and were a NEW product I was going to release and I wanted her direct feedback) to make a long story short she tried the cookie and her eyes got teary and she told me she was having a VERY VERY bad day and that “my cookie” made her remember so many good memories (without feeling guily) of her late father and she started crying! This is a very SPECIAL memory since it was until that moment, which was not so long ago, that I understood the impact my “healthy treats” could have in a person, and I am so grateful to be able to convey such emotions though a single bite!
3. Any hot messes or complete cooking failures? We promise not to tell anyone (wink wink).
Humm… let me think! So… I wanted to make coconut fudge brownies but I don’t know what happened in the process and they ended up tasting like dirt! It was horrible haha, coconut flour has a very particular texture when it bakes and It was like the first time I was using it and it was not a good! Now, it is a whole different story, I am proud to say I have mastered the ART of baking with coconut flour.
4. What ingredients would you bring on a desert island with you if you could only pick 3?
Coconut, Dark Chocolate, Bananas. I mean these three are bomb.com by themselves, but combined they are even better. The cool thing about my first ingredient is its versatility, and if you know me you should know I am all about versatile ingredients, I could make coconut butter, coconut oil, coconut flour, coconut water… So that is my smart ingredient! Then, bananas are just perfect complements to anything and well I LOVE dark chocolate so I could live off these three.
5. What food is your kryptonite? You know, one you sneak in a little extra of when no one is looking.
Beans! Since I love baking, beans give an amazing texture to baked goods without the need of butter or dairy. I never mention this to my clients because the idea of beans in sweets freaks out people since we are so accustomed to eating them as a savory dish! But in Asia red bean paste of bean desserts is a must have. Then, when I tell them ”Oh btw it has beans!” they are surprised and are totally amused by the idea of beans in sweets!
6. When you want to treat yourself or loved ones what do you prepare?
Well, to treat myself It would definitely have to be something involving chocolate! I ACCEPT IT….I AM A CHOCOHOLIC!!! I recently made a lave cake with an almond butter filling and I am totally hooked so I guess that would be my treat. My family on the other hand…(my husband cough cough) is addicted to my cheesecake and when ever I have the chance I make a fresh batch for him with his FAV topping of all times, my decadent almond butter.
7. Are there foods that you won’t eat or don’t like?
I would eat anything except bugs haha… My daily diet consists of a lot of greens, lean proteins and complex carbs like oats and brown rice. I don’t eat dairy, refined sugars or processed stuff. I prefer natural and local ingredients. That being said, since I told you all I eat anything it is because I do, but I try to keep my eating habits pretty clean during the week and on the weekends I treat my self and go out to eat a pizza or something I am craving!
8. In case of a zombie apocalypse, what would you pick for your last meal? And who would you like to eat it with?
Ok so if I was a character from The Walking Dead (hehe addicted to the show btw) I would choose a Veggie Pizza with Tequeños on the side (current favorite) and it would be with my husband! I love going out and enjoy a glass of wine, good food and just catching up on how was our week.
9. Fill in the blank. Happiness is _________.
10. If we want to totally fan crush you, where can we follow?
On Instagram I’m at @fitseed and @fitseedpanama. My personal account is @rivcaz.
Sticky Cookies Filled with Expresso Ganash
Powered by @Fitseed
- 2 tablespoons coconut flour
- 1/3 cup almond flour
- 1/3 cup oat flour
- 1 tablespoon flax
- 1 tablespoon buckwheat flour
- 3 tablespoon stevia
- 1/2 teaspoon baking powder
- 1/2 teaspoon baking soda
- 3 tablespoon apple sauce
- 2 tablespoon date paste
- 2 tablespoon maple syrup
- 1/4 cup almond milk
Preheat your oven at 275. Mix your dry ingredients in one bowl. In a separate bowl mix your humid ingredients and mix until everything is well incorporated. Then proceed to place your humid ingredients into your wet ingredients and fold the mixture util it has a thick but creamy texture. Then divide your mixtures in your muffin tins (1/4 cup per mold) and place in your oven for 30 to 40 min or until golden. This recipe yields 7 muffins.
- 15 ounces of kidney beans cooked
- 2 tablespoon of espresso powder or instant coffee
- 1 tablespoon coconut oil
- 1 tablespoon cacao powder
- 2 tablespoons maple syrup
Place all ingredients in your food processor and mix until creamy. You need to pulse your food processor and scrape the sides as you go to achieve the creamiest consistency. Store in a mason jar and use as a ganash or spread for anything you can think of!
Bonus: Oh look! You can turn these cookies into muffins too. Same recipe. Different presentation. Awesome, right?
Cranberry Pecan Pie with Oatmeal Crust
Powered by @MayiCarles
- 1 1/2 cups rolled oats
- 1/4 cup coconut oil
- 1/4 cup maple syrup
- 1/2 teaspoon nutmeg
- Pinch of sea salt
Preheat your oven at 350. Put oats in the food processor + blend, until a rough flour is formed. Add the remaining ingredients, until well combined. When dough comes together, remove it from the food processor + gather it into a ball + put in the the center of a 9-inch pie pan. Press the dough out to the edges + sides. Prick holes in the dough with a fork. Bake for 10 minutes, until golden. Remove the crust from the oven + let cool. Leave the oven on.
- 1/2 cup barley malt syrup
- 1/4 cup maple syrup
- 1 tablespoons almond butter
- 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
- 1 teaspoon cinnamon
- 1 teaspoon arrowroot powder
- 1 cup chopped pecans
- 1 cup fresh or frozen cranberries (do not use dried cranberries)
- 1/2 cup fresh or frozen blueberries
- 1/2 cup whole pecans, to decorate
Put the barley malt + maple syrup + almond butter + vanilla extract + cinnamon + arrowroot in the food processor. Blend, until smooth. Transfer for a mixing bowl. Add chopped pecans. Fold in. Add cranberries + blueberries. Fold in. Pour the filling into the cooled crust. Decorate with the whole pecans. Bake for 30 minutes, until bubbling and evenly browned. Let the pie cool completely before slicing + serving.
A big thank you to Rivca for sharing this fabulous recipe with us + giving us a sweet peak inside her world.
Spending time with her in the kitchen was so much fun + it reminded me that real radical happiness is not something big + looming on the horizon ahead, but something teeny tiny + already here.
- Finishing a hot cup of tea without having to microwave it 7 minutes later.
- Watching a full episode of Game of Thrones without interruptions.
- Finding out the dress I’m about to buy is actually 50% off. Ah!
- The sound my phone makes every time a new order comes in… Ca-ching.
- Closing the office early on Friday to drive to the beach.
- Driving to such beach with the handsomest pilot, who also happens to have great taste in music.
- Praying Baby O falls a sleep so she doesn’t cry in her car seat the whole way, and having my wish granted.
- Indulging in the most delicious dessert + oh la la, finding out it’s totally healthy too.
Little, everyday joys all lines up in a row. That is it!
I wish you the happiest week EVER. Take care of yourself, alright? We need you to be OKAY!
From the messy kitchen of,
PS: Be sure to try these recipes at home + let us know what your taste buds say. You don’t even have to pick out a favorite, cuz in our messy kitchen, every chef is a Big Mega Lotto winner.
PS2: Who do you think I should challenge next for a cookoff? Cast your votes in the comments below!
It’s time for another iconic wallpaper set. Oh yeah! Ladies + gentleman put your hands together for Anne Frank.
Click the images below to download your BONUS June Wallpapers. Complements of da’ house of mess. You’re welcome.
May all your dreams come true this month + all your devices be totally pretty.
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Photographed by Marcela Macias
We are living in front of our computers for more hours than we’d like to admit, yet, when was the last time you really paid close attention to your desktop?
Don’t look the other way. I’m talking to you my friend.
Neglect. Denial. It’s happening. I can feel it with my mind reading superpowers.
Let’s diagnose. Nod every time one of these statements sounds oddly familiar:
- You download stuff off the web + save it somewhere. Anywhere of your computer.
- You install programs + apps left n’ right with the promise that maaaaaybe one day you’ll need them. In case of a zombie Apocalypse, right?
- You drag photos from your camera roll called “IM0567” + “IM0568” + “IM0569”, never rename them and swear you’ll know where to find them later.
- Your work folder looks something like this: “Design 1” + “The Design” + “Final Design” + “Design Last Draft” + “Approved Design” + “No Really This is The FINAL One” + “Sorry, This Time is For Real”.
- You love buying fonts. More fonts. One can never have too many fonts.
- And then you get more fonts because you’re not a quitter.
- You’re serious about collecting printables. It’s not a hobby. It’s a serious sport. And you’re an Olympian athlete.
Should I keep going?
Didn’t think so.
Okay, so the result of these behaviors is a desktop flooded with icons (most of which you don’t even know what they’re for) + folders (you can only suspect what’s hidden inside) + files (with hieroglyphic names not even Dan Brown from Da Vinci Code can crack).
No wonder you’re feeling so busy busy buuuusy. No wonder you don’t have time to exercise. No wonder you can’t make Pomodoro Sauce from scratch. No wonder you didn’t get around to writing this week’s blog post. No freaking wonder. Of course! You’re still searching for that doc.
Our desktops have become the modern Bermuda Triangle. The abandoned drawer of the digital age if you will. Leash the Kraken for God’s sake!
Today I’m gonna help you get rid of desktop shame in 7 easy steps. Warm up your decluttering muscles. Put on your stretchy pants. Brew some chamomile tea. It’s time!
STEP 1: HIDE WHAT YOU DON’T USE DAILY
Now please tuck away the avalanche of worthless icons you hardly ever use. Remover them from sight. RIGHT NOW.
Do you even know what that application is for? Yeah, I though so. Let it go!
I know you don’t play Chess. Let it go!
Unless you’re Farideh Ceaser (my super talented friend who did my Life is Messy Kitchen jingle) then you probably shouldn’t have GarageBand on your dashboard. Just saying. Let it go!
I don’t care if you’re making a living online. I don’t care if your computer is your lifeline. That’s not an excuse to treat your desktop like a dumpster.
The ultimate goal is to keep your main desktop view squeaky clean.
Think minimalism. Think freedom.
Delete from the main dock all icons you don’t use on a daily basis. Simple. Revolutionary.
Also, make sure that whenever you install a new application, you uncheck the option to create a shortcut on your desktop. Programs can be accessed through other means. There’s absolutely no need for them to all be in your line of vision + clutter up your desktop with visual noise.
STEP 2: CREATE CATEGORIES TO ORGANIZE EVERYTHING
First, you need to decide how you want to group your digital collection of stuff. Consider the right taxonomy by brainstorming category options. Do you want to split your personal files from your work documents? Then create two folders + label one “Personal” + the other “Work”.
For me, my work is an extension of my personal life, so I group things a little differently. I like to categorize my desktop by projects – “Heartmade” + “Mayi Carles Shop” + “Life is Messy” + “Life Blends” + “Olivia” + so on.
Then, I go a little crazy with the sub-folders. For example, my “Life is Messy” folder hosts my “Life is Messy Bootcamp” + “Life is Messy Planners” + “Life is Messy Kitchen” + “Life is Messy Rainboots” sub-folders. Some of these even have baby folders inside of them, such as “Design” + “Contracts” + “Photos” + “Testimonials” + “Videos” to keep things in place. Get the picture?
Your turn. Take a look at your stuff. What’s the best way to categorize it? Create folders for each category, keeping in mind you can always create sub-folders inside master papa bear folders.
You might already have a filing system in place. Bravo! Just need to decide:
- Which should stay?
- Which should die (a minute of silence)?
- How many new ones you need?
- Which really belong inside another folder?
Now, I know this is time consuming, but it will save you soooooo much time in the long run. Trust me. Imagine finally being able to find exactly what you’re looking for quicker than Flash? Amen!
STEP 3: SORT
Now comes the super fun part. I’ve been waiting all my life for this. Place your files into the categories you created (sarcasm alert). Can you feel my enthusiasm?
So while you’re putting yourself through this necessary misery, you might as well take this opportunity to toss out files that are out of date + you no longer need.
STEP 4: LABEL IT RIGHT
While you’re sorting away + quite possible cursing my name, it helps to rename files as you go. Let me give you some examples:
- Photos can be renamed according to date (year/month/day).
- Files within folders can be given new names according to how they related to the whole group.
- Quotes can be titled by quote number + client name (Quote 134 – Luna Garcia).
- Design studio files can be labeled “Draft 1” + “Draft 2” + “Final.”
Why is this important? Well, because no file system in the galaxy can survive a messy archiver. Take the extra five seconds to label your files appropriately upon creation to avoid Easter Egg hunts in the future.
Now, having said that, I understand many of us have months, if not years, of unidentified objects living inside our computers. Creepy. This is the time to do some major house-elf cleaning. Work in 15 minute intervals or sections. For example, on Monday do your “Music” folder, on Tuesday do you “Downloads” folder + on Wednesday do your “Documents” folder + so on.
And you better give yourself a treat when you’re done. This is the equivalent to landing on the moon. You deserve an Oreo Madness at the finish line.
STEP 5: TAKE OUT THE TRASH
As you cruise along, drag to the trash bucket anything you no longer use. And get in the habit of periodically clicking the “Empty” button + see how your computer goes from medieval turtle to turbo.
STEP 6: BACK-UP
Make a back up of all your folders in an external hardware device. That’s an order. Unless you want to lose half of your honeymoon pics like I did.
Tip: I use Time Machine to back up my things. I also upload my most important files to Dropbox + iCloud cuz one can never be too careful.
STEP 7: DOWNLOAD A COOL DESKTOP WALLPAPER
When you’re done cleaning + organizing your desktop, it’s important to make sure that things never go back to the way they were before. If you search for “Desktop Wallpapers” on Pinterest, you will find many fun solutions to keep your desktop tidy + inspiring.
Or you can download this one I’ve designed just for desktop decluttering ninja warriors, are you one?
I promise that if you give these steps a try, you’ll notice a big difference in your productivity.
And don’t forget to take a before/after screenshots. I love seen those.
As always, if you have magic spells of your own to make decluttering your desktop easier, please do spill the jelly beans in the comments below.
A clean desktop is a happy desktop. Happy organizing my friend!
And remember, your desktop is not the Kraken. Give it some love so it loves you back.
From the messy desk of,