Girls are mean.
Okay, more like a lot of times.
When someone is mean, I get this sudden urge to release glitter into the sky above their head + watch it shower over them like a baptism of kindness.
When someone is mean, I’m also teletransported back to Art School.
Art School was brutal you guys.
My Master’s program at The School of The Art Institute of Chicago only accepted 8 graduates per year. It was a very competitive program. And there was this super mean girl. I won’t say who she is. I’ll just say this: Her name begins with “J” + ends with “ulia”.
When I think about the zombie Apocalypse, I think about her.
When I’m feeling inadequate + untalented, I think about her.
When I suck at something? You bet… JULIA! JULIA! JULIA! Her condescending Dolores Umbridge-like voice pops in my head. It’s terrifying. TE-RRI-FYING.
So that brings me here.
It’s time. It’s time to end this mean girl epidemic, ya know? Kill these dementors once in for all. By the way, my patronus charm is a unicorn. Ahem, ahem, just thought you should know.
Alright so… what do we know so far? That girls are mean. But! Girls can totally be so kind if we had a little bit more faith in each other. Right? Deep down in my T-Rex heart I truly believe that. And I know you do too.
Imagine a world where girls aren’t passive aggressive with each other. Where girls don’t bully each other… call each other fat or ugly or whatever. Where girls don’t tear each other down.
Imagine a world where we all play nice. Where success is measured in selfless acts. Where kindness is queen. Where lifting each other up is the philosophy of life. Where we actively + aggressively believe in each other + praise each other + defend each other + think the other deserves the world.
That’s the world I want to live in. That’s the world I want to help co-create. With you!
The ripple effect starts with one. One person to hold open a door. One person to leave a note on someone’s car complimenting their awesome parking skills. One person to write a thank you letter to a teacher. One person to be a spark of kindness when another really needs it.
Here’s 40 ways to be that person:
- Bring your co-workers a special treat.
- Write a poem to someone special.
- Give pretty flowers.
- Help fund a Kickstarter project.
- Leave a generous tip.
- Plant a tree.
- Introduce two people who should meet.
- Call your mom.
- Gift a book you have read + enjoyed for someone else.
- Don’t gossip.
- Send a gift card.
- Surprise someone with balloons.
- Do the dishes.
- Make pancakes (extra bonus for bringing them to bed).
- Give a bear hug.
- Really spend time with someone without your smartphone.
- Thank the police for doing their job.
- Treat someone to fresh fruit.
- Organize a lunch date with da’ girls.
- Leave sticky notes with inspirational messages.
- Arrive on time.
- Buy dessert for someone else.
- Donate _____ you no longer use.
- Make a new friend today.
- Mail someone a hand-written letter.
- Lend a hand to a gal pal.
- Listen to a friend’s problem without trying to fix her.
- Send a thank you note to a blogger you inspires you.
- Keep a gratitude journal.
- Book a mani + pedi date with yourself.
- Call someone on their birthday, don’t just congratulate them on Facebook.
- Bring wine to your next dinner party.
- Help a friend think bigger with words of encouragement + pom poms.
- Pay the toll for the person behind you.
- Greet people with name tags by their name.
- Invite others to join a conversation.
- Write a letter to someone who made a difference in you life.
- Help change a tire.
- Leave quarters at a candy machine.
- Add yours here: ___________.
I challenge you to be that person.
Use the hashtags #BringingKindnessBack #KindActivist to document this much needed revolution.
How we make others (especially other girls) feel about themselves, says a lot about us, our femininity, our sisterly superpowers, our womanhood.
If you think a girl is pretty… pretty smart… pretty strong… pretty funny, for God’s sake tell her. Say so. “Dang girl love your shoes.” “My gosh your skin is glowing.” “I see what you’re doing + you are rocking it.” Do it! Because you will probably make her really reeeeally happy for like 21 days.
You know who else will be happy for like forever? You! It’s true, the best way to make ourselves happy is to make other people happy. Works. Try it!
This is our mission. This is why we are here. To leave the world a little bit better than we found it. What else could it be? This is it!
Do good. Feel A-MA-ZING!
Do you remember the last time you felt a happiness boost just for being generous + providing support + giving presents or contributing to make the world a little bit better? Share your story in the comments bellow to help inspire more and more and more random acts of kindness.
Here is to kind girls everywhere. May we be them. May we inspire them. May we raise them.
Mean girls, take note or STICK IT!!! Life is way too short to condensed. Share stories that inspire other than gossip to trash. Pull up other than push out. Plant other than pain. Give other than suck the living life outta people. The world really doesn’t need your bitchin’.
Which reminds me…
Oh Julia! Julia who made me cry every single day after Visual Critical Studies: Creative Criticism class. Julia who really took the “criticism” part to heart. Julia who was so busy hating on people that she forgot to live. To be radically happy. To matter. Apparently. At least according to Google. She’s not even in the first 5 pages #karmaisabitch.
Oh Julia! My arch-nemesis. The PC to my Apple. The Darth Vader to my Obi Wan. The Magneto to my Professor Xavier. THANK YOU for being so hard on me that you made me want to be kinder that much badder.
We all have a Julia in our lives, don’t we? I know you’re thinking of her name right now.
By the way, to all other Julias in the galaxy, please forgive me. I promise it’s only this ONE Julia I don’t like. I don’t think y’all are trolls, or anything. Pinky promise. What? Of course you’re invited to my pajama party. So are you Julia Roberts.
These are my final words of wisdom:
Dear Girlfriend (yes, YOU reading this),
Should you ever find yourself the victim of other peoples bitterness + smallness + insecurities, remember things could be worse. You could be THEM!
And with that out of my chest I say, Let’s bring kindness back ladies! Cuz we can.
Don’t forget to use the hashtags #BringingKindnessBack #KindActivist to track our quest + find each other.
*This post is sponsored by Kate Spade NY. All content + ideas + words are my own.