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Day 4 of the 5-Day Life is Messy Challenge: Get It All Out Of Your Head

Part 4

 

Between the time you woke up today + now, did you think of anything you needed to do that you still haven’t done? Have you had the thought more than once?

 

Do you let your mind run a lot of the show, especially where the too-much-to-do department is concerned. Feels like you would need the entire Yedi Council to step in + clean up all that mess.

 

Ever feel like your head is about to explode? Explode from information overload? Explode from too many unexecuted ideas? Explode from all the things that needed to get done a long time ago?

 

I know, it happens to me too.

 

If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably made many more agreement with yourself than you realize, and every single one of them, big or small, is being tracked by a less than conscious part of you. These are the “incompletes” or “open loops”, which I define as anything pulling at your attention that doesn’t belong where it is, the way it is. These can include everything from really big to-do items like “Save the pandas”, to more modest “Hire a photographer”, to the tiniest task such as “Replace batteries in A/C remote”.

 

It’s very likely that you also have more internal commitments currently in play than you’re aware of. Consider how many things you feel even the smallest amount of responsibility to change + finish + handle or do something about. To a degree, you feel responsible to deal in some way with every new e-mail that lands on your inbox. Even your projects have areas that need to be defined. Again, responsibility, responsibility, responsibility.

 

Why Things Are On Your Mind

Most often, the reason something is “on your mind” is that you what it to be different than it currently is, and yet:

  • You haven’t clarified exactly what the intended outcome is.
  • You haven’t decided what the very next physical action step is.
  • You haven’t put reminders of the outcome + the action required in a system you trust.

 

That’s why it’s on your mind. Until those thoughts have been clarified + those decisions made + the resulting data has been stored in a system that you absolutely trust, your brain can’t give up the job.

 

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You can’t fool your brain. It knows when you haven’t come to the conclusions you need to. It knows whether you’ve scheduled your dentist appointment, or not. It knows when there’s no milk in the fridge. It knows.

 

Even when you know what you need to do or the steps you need to take to resolve an issue, your mind can’t let go until you write yourself a reminder in a place it knows you will, without fail, look. Until then, your mind will keep nagging, will keep pressuring you + will keep stressing you out.

 

Don’t panic. Mayi here, to the rescue. Got my Hello Kitty. I mean business!

 

It’s actually pretty simple. In order to deal with all that you’ve got going on, you must (1) identify + collect everything that’s ringing a bell (ahem ahem, those things that bug you when you hit the yoga mat) + (2) plan how to handle them. That’s simply taken care of with a Mental Detox. Let me explain.

 

You see, everything we do (and thinking is also doing) takes up space in our lives. Sometimes these thoughts mutate into mental ulcers + mental fat + God’s sake mental cellulite, which is why we must detoxify. Why do people go on Juice Cleanses? Well, to give their body a much needed rest (maybe post one too many Oreos), so it can use all it’s energy to repair tissue + heal + shine. That’s why, I propose a brain dump, a Mental Detox if you will. Why? To give you back your focus + your productive energy + your down-time + your freaking life back.

 

You ready? Let’s do this!

 

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Here’s what you’ll need is:

  • A stop watch or kitchen timer.
  • To set aside 30 minutes of your day.
  • To download + print your Mental Detox sheet.
  • Something to scribble down your crazy, sexy ideas. Yes, you can use your colored markers, Picasso.
  • Follow the steps.

 

Here’s the step-by-step plan:

 

Step 1:

DUMP IT

In order to eliminate all the holes in your leaky bucket, you need to collect + gather together all the things you consider incomplete in your world. Consider it an inventory of open loops. Anything you attach a “need to” + “ought to” or “should”. That’s an incomplete.

 

Grab your Mental Detox printable + spend the next half hour writing everything that distracts you + interest you or in some way consumes a part of your conscious attention. Big projects + teeny tiny projects + coherent thoughts + utter chaos + worries + don’t forgets + would be nice tos… anything that’s swimming around in brain la la land, get it on your paper.

 

It might be a project or a problem that is really in your face. Perhaps it’s something you are being pressed to handle. Maybe you have a vacation trip coming up that you need to make some mayor last-minute decision about. Or it very well may be inherited one million dollars + you don’t know what to do with the cash. Whatever it is, dump it.

 

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By the way, if you catch yourself half way through saying “I’m done”, stand up, walk around, do a little one-woman dance party + sit your cute ass back down. Because just when you think you’re done, there’s always that one more things that’s waiting to come out like a fart. Sorry for all these poo-related references.

 

A note of caution: This isn’t the time to be picky or choosy. There are no wrong or right items to include in your Mental Detox. Everything goes on the page, because what stays in your head, unsaid + ignored + unaccounted for, well, it seeks vengeance when you’re sleeping. Don’t.

 

Step 2:

PICK A DATE

Okay. So, when the time is up, you will end up with something that looks like a doctors prescription – a barely legible page + filled with words that make little to no sense. That’s part of the plan.

 

Now comes the fun part. Can you guess what’s coming? Yeah, it’s time to group your doodles + scribbles by completion date. I need you to prioritize your items according to the following categories:

  • What do you want to get done in the next day?
  • What do you want to get done in the next week?
  • What do you want to get done in the next month?
  • What do you want to do in the next year?

 

There’s a little section on your Mental Detox sheet to do it really easily. You’re welcome.

 

Step 3:

EMPTY YOUR BUCKET

Emptying your bucket does not mean that you have to finish everything that’s on your basket, it just means you have to take it out of the Mental Detox container + give it a proper place on your calendar + decide what should be done with it next. Schedule it if you will in your Daily To Do Planner + Weekly To Do Planner + Monthly To Do Planner + Yearly To Do Planner. You get the drill.

 

Not emptying your bucket is like having empty pizza boxes that nobody ever dumps. you just keep on buying more Dominos pizza + never take out the trash. Yuck!

 

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Of course, in order to do this successfully you need to have in place a management system you can count on. Many people try to get organized but make the mistake of doing it on Post-It notes + napkins + shoe boxes + scraps of last night’s sushi menu. That’s cute. It works for a while. Not anymore. You’re not goofing around here. You need a certain degree of logic to take your routines seriously. You need a robust calendar you respect, enough to never cancel your most important appointments, the ones with YOURSELF. You need bulletproof, nothing to lose. Fire away, fire away. Ricochet, you take your aim. Fire away, fire away. You shoot me down but I won’t fall. I am TITA-NI-UM.

 

Got too carried away there, didn’t I?

 

Step 4:

FIRE THE FLUFF

There must also be items on your list that that you have no emotional connection to + you couldn’t pick a completion date to, like that impersonal e-mail invitation you got (“Hey Blogger”) to participate in a Little Miss Blogger Summit. This is actually a good indication that the item needs to go. If you’re not excited to do it tomorrow + next week + next month + this year, the item doesn’t deserve prime real state space in your head. Unless it’s something mandatory like doing your taxes (which you can outsource too, you know), you have my permission to draw a line + let it go. Firing your ideas + projects is liberating. Trust me.

 

For the longest time I’ve been dragging around Fairy Tale dreams like: “I want to learn yoga + do those funky headstands people do on Instagram.” It would be nice. You know what also would be nice? To be able to offer my Life is Messy Bootcamp in 6 different languages including Spanish, which is my native tongue. It would be absolutely fantastic. A dream come true. This had been nagging me for the longest time until I got really honest with myself + admitted to myself that this is simply not top priorities for me right now + that’s okay. In that moment, I won my life back + I freed myself from this need to be perfect + have it all right now.

 

Free yourself from self-imposed dreams that are just not that important right this second. Remember you can do ANYTHING. Anything you want. Really. Just not everything at once. And that’s okay.

 

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DO THIS NOW: Download your Mental Detox worksheet + follow the steps. Be sure to share your findings in the comment section below for a chance to win cool prizes. Including a FREE membership to Life is Messy Bootcamp

 

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You ready? Let’s do this!

 

When you’re done with this Mental Detox exercise you will, by default, have in front of you a reliable Master List, the kind that will keep your to-do planners busy, but good-busy, like getting-the-stuff-that-really-matters-to-you-most-done kinda busy. You didn’t think this was all about dumping, did you? Oh no, no, no. This is called Life is Messy Challenge for a reason; we recycle crap + turn it into diamonds, baby!

 

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It Doesn’t End Here

Look, I know this isn’t rocket science. We just didn’t re-invent the wheel here. I’m sure that at some point in time you’ve gotten to a place in a project, or in your life, where you just had to sit down + make a list. So you know this works. The thing I’ve noticed though is that you do this kind of list-making drill when the sh•t hits the fan, when the confusion gets unbearable + you just have to do something about it. Or… or…. or you usually make lists only about the specific area that’s bugging you. Why are we like this? My gooosh.

 

Imagine a world where you made that kind of review a characteristic of your ongoing life + work style. And you maintained it across all areas of your life + work, not just your most urgent to-do’s. You’d be practicing the kind of black belt management I teach in Life is Messy Bootcamp.

 

Make an appointment with yourself to do this exercise at least once every quarter. I promise you, it will change your life + business forever.

 

That’s it for today.

 

Tomorrow, I will show my trusted calendar system for getting things done like Beyonce. Stay tuned!

 

Whether you decide to join us for an all new season of Life is Messy Bootcamp or not, I truly believe this 5-Day Life is Messy Challenge can transform your life + give you the basic framework you need to breakthrough + experience miracles this year + every single one after that.

 

If you have a friend, a loved one, looking to accomplish BIG things in 2015, it would mean the world if you could point them in this direction. THANK YOU for helping me spread the word with the fancy social media buttons below!

 

CLICK TO TWEET: Get out of your own way with this Mental Detox brain dump exercise… it’s FREE! – http://bit.ly/1y35Mmq via @mayicarles

 

See you mañana.

 

xo,

Mayi Carles

 

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Day 3 of the 5-Day Life is Messy Challenge: Turn Your Dreams Into Reality

Part 3

 

There’s this quote I love by Gustavo Cerati, that goes like this: “Mereces lo que sueñas”. (English translation: You deserve what you dream). Deep down, I believe that dreaming is the first step to achieving our goals. The problem rises when we disconnect our dreams from reality or our reality from our dreams.

 

I’ve always been a dreamer. I bought my domain name www.mayicarles.com when I was 17. That was FIFTEEN YEARS BACK you guys. I’m talking internet ice ages here. Facebook wasn’t even around. But I had a dream. A blurry dream. But I had a dream nonetheless.

 

I’ve also been a little obsessed with setting goals for myself, but as a first born, too often I’ve found a way to stress myself out with the pushing + over-striving + guilt-tripping. No bueno.

 

Desperately needing a system to turn my crazy dreams into fact without giving myself an ulcer, I came up with this lil’ equation to take light bulb moments into done deals. It’s practical + it’s poetic + I owe so much of my hip hip hoorays to it.

 

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I present to you the method behind my madness, my tested + contested process, my down-to-a-science step-by-step formula for transforming dreams into reality. Here goes:

 

Step 1:

DREAM BIG FIRST

You know that place between sleep + awake. The place you can still remember dreaming? That’s where your life gets scripted. That’s where your bigness lies. Go there, as often as you can.

 

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Tip: Keep a dream journal at your night stand. This is important. You think you’ll remember, but you never do, am I right?

 

Step 2:

JOT DOWN YOUR GOAL

What’s that crazy dream that you can’t seem to get off your mind? That one. Exactly. In order to manifest it, you must first give it a name + put it down on paper or else it’ll only exist in your mind, which we all know is code for “it’s never gonna happen.”

 

Close your eyes + listen carefully to what you’ve always wanted. Alert: This is no New Age, experimental exercise. I mean it. Shut your eyes + ignore your rumbling tummy asking for milkshakes + quiet the “this is stupid” + give yourself permission to listen to what’s there. So, what’s there? Take a mental snapshot.

 

This is no time to be modest. No time to convince yourself that you really don’t want {insert your dream here} that bad. I mean you can try, but we all know that’s a load of hot dogs. Playing small is for the little leagues.

 

Embrace the grandeur of your T-Rex sized world domination aspirations, Pinky.

 

Need a brown bag? That’s okay. It happens to the best. Big, hairy, audacious goals are scary. It’s a good sign though; it means you’re expanding beyond your comfy blanket.

 

Now, over the years I’ve learned that not all goals are created equal. Some are as fragile as shot glasses + will break with the slightest disturbance or pressure. If you write wishy-washy goals, you’ll get wishy-washy results + that’s not the kind of goal you want by your side.

 

You deserve nothing less than SMART goals (as Cameron Harold, author of Double Double, calls them). He provides a practical guide to turn crappy goals into SMART ones that goes like this:

  • S is for SHARED: The goal has to be shared with a coach + mentor + family member + friend + colleague or mastermind group. I go as far as sharing my goals with you, my messy gang. It’s a healthy kind of pressure. Accountability keeps me honest + on my tippy toes.
  • M is for MEASURABLE: The goal has to be quantifiable. If you can’t measure it, you can’t reach it. Put a number on it. Metrics help us evaluate if a goal is hit or missed. Hazy goals produce hazy results.
  • A is for ATTAINABLE: The goal, no matter how fearless, has to be reachable. You might not know exactly how you will do it, but you must know if it’s within the realm of possibility. The goal has to be at least remotely possible to be taken seriously by you.
  • R if for RELEVANT: The goals has to be yours + yours alone. Our souls have a bullsh*t-o-meter. It has a way of detecting when we’re picking people-pleasing goals over goals that make us happy, so ensure that you’re only working towards passion projects.
  • T is for TIME: The goal has to have a due date. If it doesn’t have a deadline, you will put it off forever + evah!

 

Now it’s your turn. Write down your SMART goal + imagine what it would be like to reach it!

 

Step 3:

PROCLAIM HOW YOU WANT TO FEEL

Setting up goals has a tendency to push us outward: “I want to make more money” + “I want people to respect me” + “I want my boyfriend to propose already.” This step is about bringing your goals back to basecamp: Your heart. The ultimate goal should always be to feel good, right? That’s because at your center you have what Danielle LaPorte calls “core desired feelings” – universal emotions you crave + make you feel like a goddess.

 

Get clear + I mean really clear about how you want to feel when you get out of bed + when you launch a product + when you step on to a stage + when your husband comes home + when you walk into a room + when you wear red lipstick + when you go shopping + when you’re looking at your bank account + when you reach your goals + when you _____________. Deep down inside, you know it. Well, write it down.

 

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Write it in stream of consciousness, because there is nothing more pure, more powerful to take you to the finish line than this. Hint: If you’re struggling to come up with your core desired feelings, take out a thesaurus + look up words + search the definition of words like happy + joyful + strong + confident + divine femininity. Pick your core desired feelings, so you can become an intentional creator of your life. This is about getting up everyday + asking yourself, “What am I gonna do today to generate these core desired feelings?”

 

Step 4:

STATE THE PURPOSE

In order to achieve anything, you must first answer the one question that matters most: Why? Why do you want to attain this particular goal? To reach the summit, you must know why attaining this goal is so important to you – not your neighbor, not your mentor, not your mom, but YOU. Why do you want this so badly? A goal without a supporting purpose will not stand the test of time or resist the smell of sugar-rich S’mores cookies.

 

Mayi Carles

 

Step 5:

CONSIDER WHAT YOU’LL NEED

You have to equip yourself to reach your goals; otherwise, you’re not likely to give it your best effort. Being prepared is empowering + confidence-boosting. Do you need to teach yourself how to use Adobe Illustrator? Do you need a new camera + a perhaps a light box? What about a scanner? What tools + skills do you need? Write them all down.

 

Step 6:

SET BOUNDARIES

I know you want to catch your shiny star, but at what expense? Would you work 15 hours days? Would you skip weekends + vacations? Would you give up rights to your work at the expense of producing your line? Would you go into debt? Would you be willing to be on the road for a number of days? What won’t you do? What are your unbreakable core values? “No matter what” is a very dangerous phrase when it comes to your wholeness. Write your boundaries loud + clear.

 

Step 7:

MAKE IT ACTIONABLE

If you can’t measure it, you can’t reach it. Too often I see people set great goals for themselves, but they don’t take 5 minutes to think about what needs to happen in order to cross it out from the bucket list.

 

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When you’re planning a dinner party, for example, you must think about all the little pieces of the puzzle that must come together: invite guests + determine the seating + find out in advance if any guests have food allergies + set the color scheme + pick the caterer + set the menu + send RSVPs/invitations + choose the wine + make the playlist… everything.

 

What precisely needs to take place to get you to the finish line? Hint: The task must start with a verb + it must be so small that you can check it off relatively quickly from your list. It’s my secret to feel a sense of accomplishment + success + confidence to keep going.

 

A goal without a action plan is just a wish.

 

Step 8:

SET A DUE DATE

Without setting a completion date, it’s easy to find yourself pinning away your dream kitchen + sharpening your crayons + updating your Facebook status + finding the perfect Instagram filter or alphabetizing your DVD collection. Get real. Look at your goal + commit to a culminating date.

 

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Over-achiever alert: Be conscious of your lifestyle. If you’re getting married next month, don’t expect to give birth to an eight-week multimedia program over night.

 

Step 9:

REWARD YOURSELF

Positive reinforcement works. Period. An oriental massage + dinner at your favorite restaurant + new bed sheets + fresh flowers + red lipstick + aromatherapy candles + a Barnes & Noble shopping spree + new measuring cups from Anthropologie. How will you celebrate your milestones? Pick your prize. Plan out your bonuses; you’ll need them to carry you through infinity + beyond.

 

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Now it’s time to put this formula to good use.

 

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DO THIS NOW: Download your Goal Getter worksheet + fill it in following the nine-step plan. Be sure to share your findings in the comment section below for a chance to win cool prizes. Including a FREE membership to Life is Messy Bootcamp.

 

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Having Trouble Coming Up With SMART Goals?

Troubleshooting? Overwhelmed by everyone else’s bucket list. You don’t even know which dreams are yours + which are borrowed? Feeling utterly uninspired? The Goal Generator will help you quiet the noise + flesh out your twinkling desires hidden just beneath the surface. The categories will also spark all sort of new ideas – “I need to climb a mountain” + “I need to sign up for surfing lessons” + “I need to pick a launch date.” Let them flow. You’re Pink Panther on a mission to find your passion projects + your do-good expeditions + your mark on the world. Cue the music!

 

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Got your goal? Excellent.

 

DO THIS NOW: Download your Goal Generator + take it out for a spin. 

 

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For meltdown-control purposes focus on no more than three goals at a time. I know you’re perfectly capable of pulling all-nighters with or without coffee + can put on mascara while driving, but this is no time to show off your super woman skills. Stay humble.

 

Make It Stick

Somewhere along your Green Smoothie Challenge or your This Time Is For Realz Workout Regimen, your monkey brain will detour to Tiramisu Lane until further notice. Surely until Monday.

 

I said Monday, but I didn’t specify which Monday.

 

Good habits are darn hard to stick to, but breaking them only takes the smell of Cinnabon + the snooze button or a passive aggressive e-mail from a client. Been there? I’ve done that too. Not proud? I know, me neither.

 

The question is: Why? Why do we stop doing things we actually want to do? Good habits. Activities that make us feel freaking incredible. After consulting with behavioral experts like Ramit Sethi + Charles Duhigg + Jerry Seinfeld, I discovered why. Why some people manage to turn their best intentions into done deals, while others, well, eat an entire batch of Red Velvet cupcakes. The missing puzzle piece is forward momentum.

 

Forward momentum: To continue a chain of events without skipping a beat. A competition with yourself, if you will, to see how many days straight you can stick to your habit. It can be jogging + writing + painting + surfing + making videos. Your pick.

 

How? Glad you asked. Use your calendar of choice (ahem ahem if you’ve got my Life is Messy Planner kit you can use your Habit Tracker (best for short term challenges like a 21-Day Detox) or your Resolution Tracker (perfect for long term commitments, like quitting sugar or upping your surfing level). Hang your calendar on a prominent wall + with a colorful marker scribble an “X” on the days you nail it like a boss. After a few days, a chain will begin to form. Just keep at it. Your mission, if you choose to accept it, is to grow that chain longer + longer + longer everyday. It’s pretty simple if you think about it like a game. You save the process from Koopa Troopa when you don’t break the chain.

 

Here’s your cheat sheet:

  • A long line of Xs means party time. Excellent. 
  • Broken chain means it’s okay to have a nervous breakdown. Just don’t unpack + live there. Cry it out. Break an ugly flower vase. Call a friend who deserves to listen. Sure, have a shot of limoncello. Then remember why you started + make an epic come back. Sometimes a clean slate may be the best thing that ever happened to you.

 

I think you got it. Don’t break the chain!!!

 

Now, if for whatever reason, it doesn’t matter why, you skip a beat, bounce back unto the board game. Quickly. No one will even notice you were gone. It’ll be like you were stuck in Monopoly jail + missed a turn. Who cares? You have to go pee. No big deal. Speed bumps are expected. Healthy, even. A reputation of permanently missing in action is what’s dangerous.

 

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You would never leave a client waiting for you at the meeting place, would you? But somehow we miss our appointments with ourselves all the freaking time. What’s the deal? Well, it’s complicated. The thing about sticking with goals + habits + resolutions is this:

  • The first few days are the toughest ones. But I promise you it pays off to postpone a present pleasure for a future gain. Research shows that after 14 consecutive days, a forced routine turns into habit. That means that repetition forms habits. If you focus on consistency, you’ll win.
  • Relying on willpower to stick to your promises is a recipe for the Apocalypse as Amadeus hypothesized it. We have limited willpower. The more we use it, the less we have. So instead of expecting willpower to Fairy-Godmother you out of every pickle, you must habitualize big chunks of your day. Start by asking the Universe exactly what you want + make the uncompromisable decision the night before of how the next days will roll out. When you’re clear about what you want + get serious enough with yourself to craft an unbreakable commitment, resistance chickens out + bothers an easier target without a plan.
  • You are your best at your peak performance hours of the day, so make sure you’re not using up your daily supply of pixie with stalking Ryan Gosling on Instagram.
  • Habits have a ripple effect. You knock down one domino + all the others follow. All you need is ONE keystone action to unlock your chain. That’s why when you start working out it seems easier to eat clean. 
  • Believing you can do it is non-negotiable. You need to be your #1 Fan. If not you, who will?
  • You can trick your brain with cues to sustain a habit. For example: 
    • A time cue: Do your Insanity workout every day when the clock strikes 7. 
    • A place cue: Pick a spot to sit down + write your cookbook. Same desk. Same chair. Same ambiance music. 
    • A social cue: Trying to quit smoking? Schedule lunch with non-smoking friends. 
    • An emotional cue: When stressed + tempted to vacuum your entire fridge, have a fun movie ready to be watched that will help keep your mind off the wedding cake. 
    • A visual cue: Want to run the NY Marathon? Have your running shoes + workout clothes out, so you go from jammies to geared up champ in an instant. No brain cells required.

 

So, let’s recap. Instead of focusing on how the hell you’re gonna transform your dreams into reality or stick with your goals, channel your energy to playing, playing the game of chain building. Your challenge is to keep forward momentum going – in business + in relationships + in health + in learning. You can do it!

 

That’s it for today.

 

Tomorrow, I will show you how to cure mental constipation once in for all. Stay tuned!

 

Whether you decide to join us for an all new season of Life is Messy Bootcamp or not, I truly believe this 5-Day Life is Messy Challenge can transform your life + give you the basic framework you need to breakthrough + experience miracles this year + every single one after that.

 

If you have a friend, a loved one, looking to accomplish BIG things in 2015, it would mean the world if you could point them in this direction. THANK YOU for helping me spread the word with the fancy social media buttons below!

 

CLICK TO TWEET: A 9-Step Formula to Transform Your Dreams into Reality(comes with FREE printables). Get it here – http://bit.ly/1wZROxG via @mayicarles

 

See you mañana.

 

xo,

Mayi Carles

 

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Day 2 of The 5-Day Life is Messy Challenge: Clarify Your Vision

Part 2

 

Things rarely get stuck because lack of time or lack of talent. They get stuck because of lack of clarity.

 

Do you remember that scene from Alice in Wonderland where Alice comes to a fork in the road?

 

“Which road do I take?”, she asked.

 

“Where do you want to go?” responded the Cheshire cat.

 

“I don’t know”, Alice answered.

 

“Then”, said the cat, “it doesn’t matter.”

 

If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there. Including the one with a stop at Azkaban.

 

Too often I see people complain about not being lucky enough or whining about the economy being at fault for all their troubles, when all along the real root of their misfortunes is a problem with their inner compass.

 

Over the years, I’ve worked with thousands of ambitious entrepreneurs. Of course, they’ve all wanted a lot of different things – everything from more time + more exposure + more money + more subscribers + more magazine features, but underneath it all, they all wanted the same thing: to be happy.

 

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It’s a universal desire + the real reason why I know you are here too. The good news is: I can help, not because I’m a magician or a unicorn (pfff I wish I was a unicorn), but because happiness is your birth right.

 

You are biologically + cognitively + physically + spiritually wired to be happy. But when you choose to blind fold yourself + navigate through life without a compass, winging every move, you break. You fall more times that you need to. You numb to take the edge off. You get sick. You hurt others. You hurt yourself. Everyone loses.

 

The way I see it is this, you have two options:

  • Option #1: You can either wait for the Illuminati to crown you worthy of love + belonging + a tight ass or,
  • Option #2: You can get a head start by picking yourself + creating a detailed vision of what you really really want. I’m taking about a vision board + an inspirational roadmap + a MEMO to yourself saying: “Look girlfriend, this is what I want my life + my business to be like.”

 

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Our intentions have the power to map out the course ahead either to lead our ship to treasure chest or to sink it. They choice is always within us.

 

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So how do you create clear vision? A roadmap? A lighthouse that will guide you when it gets dark? Easy. First, ask yourself these key questions:

  • When you peek into the future, what do you see?
  • When you peek into the future, what do you want there?
  • When you peek into the future, what materializes in your imagination as the epitome of success?

 

Don’t worry about how you’re going to build it, just focus on describing what you see + what you want there + what utter bliss looks like to you.

 

Then, pretend you have a time machine that let’s you visit the you of 1 year from now, 3 years from now, 5 years from now…

  • What do you find?
  • How are you feeling?
  • What are people saying about you?
  • What pictures are you posting on Instagram?
  • Who are you sharing this dream with?
  • What have you stopped doing?
  • What’s your morning ritual like?
  • What do you do for a living?
  • How much money are you making?
  • How much are you giving away?
  • How are your core values being realized?

 

Sit down with pen + paper. Do a stream-of-consciousness riff. Concepts. Words. Feelings. Images. Fill in the gaps. Jot it all down.

 

This exercise isn’t meant to look pretty, it’s meant to evoke.

 

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Having a Hard Time Clarifying Your Vision?

Need a hand? No problem!

 

Here are some troubleshooting ideas that might help:

  • Pretend you’re a movie director. Literarily script this as a film – each scene + each set + each plot + the costumes + even the soundtrack. The story has to come to life. Write the movie storyboard you want to be the protagonist for.
  • Play the “Wouldn’t It Be So Cool If…” Game. Take a deep breath. Let your mind run loose. Think about all the abundance that’s possible. Finish this sentence: Wouldn’t it be so cool if…
  • Don’t get caught up in the how of things. Instead, focus on the what + dream bigger. Leave the how to Google. Like my mentor Marie Forleo says, “Everything is figureoutable.” Now, having said that, keep your vision within the confines of space + time. Let your imagination + idealism unfurl, but save grossly impractical things, such as “I wanna win the lottery + be Beyonce,” for another time.
  • Get in the mood. When sitting down to write your roadmap, make yourself some tea + put on the Lord of The Rings score + light up some aromatherapy candles + take a hot shower + put on your comfiest pajamas (and your fluffy socks too, if you’d like) or whatever. Do what you must to free yourself of the day-to-day unproductive preoccupations + visualize your future masterpiece. If you’re still feeling  uninspired, get out of your sweatpants (how did I know you where wearing sweatpants you ask? I may or may not be a wizard who’s gonna buy herself a wand when I go to the Wizarding World of Harry Potter + then I will go on a quest to take down the owl that forgot to give me my Hogwarts acceptance letter #accio). So, as I was saying, put on real clothes (sure yoga pants count) + leave the house. Go somewhere you can let your mind wander free. I wrote my vision for the future at the beach, in a hammock. Cheesy, but highly effective.
  • Close all your tabs + step away from the screens. For the love of all things holy, turn off your computer + all electronic gadgets while attempting this mission. No matter how much willpower you have, the temptation of e-mail-checking + web “researching” will be there.
  • No shrinking. This is no time for limiting beliefs + party-pooping or mind-numbing. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. Gosh, you’re writing your future autobiography. Anything less than outlandishly epic is plain silly.
  • Pinterest can help. Pinterest makes it easy to collect online research + ideas in one place on virtual bulletin boards, called pin boards, where you can “pin” images that you love for safe keeping. It’s a great resource to visually document, not only who you are, but what you want to be. You can even make your boards private if you want to. See how I do it right here.

 

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Set Yourself Up For Success

Here are a few of my recommendations to help you bring your vision to reality through small, but mighty powerful changes:

  • As soon as you wake up, do something that makes you feel loved. Did you know that a good morning kiss can help prevent against stress-related illnesses + it triggers hormones that help a person deal with pressure? Well, David takes good care of me, I’ll say that much, which makes me feel like the luckiest woman in the planet. Start your day off on the right foot whether it’s cuddling + journaling, meditating or brewing yourself some coffee. You decide.
  • Buy the best food money can afford. If there is one area of your life you shouldn’t be cheap with is your food. I might not have the newest BMW parked in my garage, but I invest in organic strawberries + fresh figs + premium coffee + artesanal honey + gourmet jams. You can’t tell yourself that you deserve the best + then eat at McDonalds. If you can’t afford the best quality food across the board, pick one item or class or items where you’ll always but the best there is. Maybe you always buy organic eggs. Start sending your brain the message that it deserves + receives the best.
  • Cultivate an environment that feels aligned with your vision board.  A manifesting sanctuary if you will. Put up words + pictures that condition your mind to attract what you most desire. Place these keywords + visuals within your visual field so you can see them frequently, ideally someplace where you will be processing them continuously for many hours each day. Just be careful not to create too much visual clutter in such a way that could prime you for thoughts like clutter + confusion. Sure you have my permission to buy yourself an inspirational poster today (wink wink).
  • Clean the clutter. Chaos only attracts more chaos + confusion. Keep your spaces neat + tidy. It’s efficient. It’s a delight to work when there is space to breath + think. Give yourself room, the million dollar ideas will come next.
  • Hire freaking professionals. Last year, not so voluntarily, I ceased my need to control everything + do it all myself + micro-manage. I stopped hiring kids, which at the time I felt was all I could afford. But cheap, ladies + gentz, comes at a high price. You get sick. You end up having to babysit, a lot. You don’t get the job done right. You end up having to hire a pro to fix the damage. Makes sense to save yourself the messy middle + go straight to the best, doesn’t it?
  • Go on the Toxic People Diet. Have the courage to fire every whiny + pessimistic + energy sucking person in my life who is dimming your glittery eyes. They say you are the compendium of the 5 people you spend your most time with, so choose right my friend.
  • Dress the part. And by dressing the part I don’t mean wear a tiara to attract wealth. I mean thinking about the influence your clothes have on your mood. What makes you feel confident when you’re chatting with a client or having lunch with a colleague? I’m writing this while wearing stretchy pants + a cute yoga tank top. Could you tell? Does that make me feel unprofessional? No! It makes me feel comfortable + authentic + ready to do my pre-natal yoga as soon as I’m done with work. All I’m asking is for you to give your wardrobe some thought + attention. I know I feel invincible when I wear a double coat of mascara + my red Chanel lipstick. The only way to know for sure what works for you is to test.

 

I know that many of these changes may seem trivial. Are they actually worth doing? The answer is yes. But don’t just take my word for it. Try it for yourself. See what happens. These are such simple + easy changes to make that testing them is very low risk. I think you’ll be pleased, even surprised, with the result

 

So are you ready to not skip today’s challenge? This is single handedly the most powerful assignment you can do for the present + future + you deserve nothing less than fantastic.

 

DO THIS NOW: Create a vision that makes you excited to jump out of bed in the morning. Be sure to share your findings in the comment section below for a chance to win cool prizes.

 

When complete, this map will become your culture, your mantra. It will inform your decisions + help guide your team, even if your team is you + your little puppy Toto.

 

Heads up: You will be tempted to skim through this lesson because it’s almost too easy + too simple, and you think you already know what you want + how you want your future to look like. It’s probably in your head somewhere, you think. No wonder you’ve got mental constipation + sometimes you can’t put yourself to sleep.

 

But here’s the thing, too many people create a meaningful vision for what they want their life + business to look like, but very few really take the time to pause + consider the full picture.

 

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For example, if you’re aiming to triple your income in 2015:

  • What will that look like?
  • How many people will you need on board?
  • Will you still be able to work from your home studio?
  • Will you need to travel more?
  • Will you be home in time for super?
  • Will you be able to leave the office early on Fridays?

 

By the way, being clear on your financial goals is not enough. Telling yourself “I’m attracting mucho dinero” will not work if you then go + fill your brain with loser thoughts of scarcity + lack + laziness by using your old toothbrush that should have been replaced months ago + checking a cluttered e-mail inbox on a frustratingly slow computer running pirated software + drinking cheap tea from an ugly hand-me-down mug.

 

Doesn’t work like that folks!

 

Your actions need to be coherent with your dreams. Do you give yourself the experience? Or do you deny yourself that experience? What associations do your choices trigger? Do you feel lucky + grateful + on your way to the top? Or do you feel cheap + frustrated + unworthy? Think about it.

 

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I confess I used to hate this exercise. B-O-R-I-N-G! I’m that girl who buys a $750 Breville Juicer, but has no time to read the instructions. I want to make a Banana Colada, IMMEDIATELY! But I learned to love this exercise when I had to plan my handmade wedding in just three months. Three months. I spent the first two weeks looking at wedding blogs + Pinterest boards + Martha Stewart magazines. Then, I played the “Wouldn’t It Be So Cool If…” Game. I stopped, looked at my budget + created a full color vision of what I wanted:

  • I want to wear a Spanish dress. I want to feel like a Flamenco dancer.
  • I want to skip the family tiara. I’ll look like Fiona. I want a big handmade flower on the side of my head instead.
  • I want the ballroom to feel like a garden, not a conference room. Plants + candles everywhere.
  • I want cupcakes. Lots + lots of cupcakes.
  • I don’t want sushi.
  • I want the YMCA song banned from the music list.
  • I want Michael Jackson .
  • I want lots of party props. Everyone.

 

I knew exactly what I wanted + what I didn’t want. That saved me time + energy + Bridezilla moments + helped me create the happiest memories of my life. And I didn’t fight with David one single day of the planning or with my mom or my mother in law + I am absolutely sure it was because we all had a map of what we were creating, TOGETHER.

 

And have you ever observed an athlete right before a competition? They use focus + visualization to manifest before their eyes their desired results. By imagining the journey + it’s obstacles before they unfold, they prepare themselves mentally + physically for the challenge.

 

Take note. Learn from the pros.

 

That’s it for today.

 

Tomorrow, I will show you how to transform your dreams into reality. Stay tuned!

 

Whether you decide to join us for an all new season of Life is Messy Bootcamp or not, I truly believe this 5-Day Life is Messy Challenge can transform your life + give you the basic framework you need to breakthrough + experience miracles this year + every single one after that.

 

If you have a friend, a loved one, looking to accomplish BIG things in 2015, it would mean the world if you could point them in this direction. THANK YOU for helping me spread the word with the fancy social media buttons below!

 

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See you mañana.

 

xo,

Mayi Carles

 

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Day 1 of The 5-Day Life is Messy Challenge: Discover Your Super Power

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Ever wonder why you’re captivated by some products and services + not by others? Why you recall some brands, yet forget the rest? Why you’re drawn to some people + others make you yawn?

 

In a noisy world where most people are yelling, “Hey, look at ME ME ME!”, it’s a must to find your fascination advantage, your secret sauce, your super power.

 

I know it’s tempting to get started on the productivity stuff + jump ahead, but in training + coaching hundreds of creative entrepreneurs, I have found that number one barrier to success isn’t necessarily a lack of organizational skills (though they themselves might think it is), the real problem is a lack confidence. These supernovas struggle with self-worth. They don’t understand why they are here + why it matters.

 

FIRST, we must talk about the inside, that burning fire you have within that’s calling your name. Once the inside is taken care of, the outside will fall into place. Trust me.

 

Your Super Power is the thing people often come to you for. It’s what makes your irresistible + unforgettable. It’s that in which you outshine everyone else. It’s something you excel at, in part because it’s a talent, but mostly because you enjoy doing it.

 

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Your Super Power is the convergence of three factors:

  • The things you love to do.
  • The things you’re praised for.
  • The things your clients will buy.

 

Let’s deconstruct.

 

Things You Love To Do

My parents always knew what I wanted for Christmas because I’ve always been one of those obnoxious people who is very vocal about what she loves: Measuring cups + pajamas + coloring + bunting flags + minions + big sunglasses + labeling E-VE-RY-THING + anything from Anthropologie + nocciola gelato + notepads + tickets to Cirque Du Soleil. And I project these obsessions in what I do as well.

 

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When I was little, I remember I used to save my Halloween + ballet costumes so I could wear them all year long. Now that I’m my own CEO + sign my own checks, Why should I obey a dress code imposed by boring adults? I bring my onesie to work whenever I want to.

 

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My business partner April Bowles-Olin + I even took it a step further when were putting together our program Connecting the Gaps. We brought back the superhero cape. And adult tutus, sure, why not?

 

Some people really struggle with this one, and I’ve noticed it’s due to one of two things: (1) Either they have been too preoccupied people pleasing + taking care of everyone but themselves, or (2) they feel that life is too messy + doing what they love seems selfish + unrealistic. It’s a shame because you are of greater service to others when you’re happy.

 

Do you remember what you were like as a kid? What was the 5 year old you like? Way before you god schooled on what to do + how to do it. Before rules like “No rollerblading inside the house” or “No elbows in the table”. What comes up? That’s your purest life force, your element, the thing that makes your heart beats faster, the reason why you get excited about Christmas, why you are here!

 

If you need help wrapping your finger around what it is you love to do, think about it this way: If tomorrow were your birthday, how would you like the day to roll out from start to finish? What would you have for breakfast? What would you wear? How would you like to spend your time? What would be the perfect present? What dessert did you pick to blow your candles? Who do you want to spend this special day with? Who would you rather not receive a “Happy Birthday” from?

 

I’ve played this little game many times before with friends + family + colleagues + clients (usually wine was involved, but anyhoo). The results have been extremely enlightening. Give it a try + see if it helps you pin point some of your genuine passions.

 

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Things You’re Praised For

I love it when my guest come into my kitchen + praise my spice cabinet, “Oh my! All your spices are perfectly alphabetized” or when they step into my studio + cannot believe everything is color coordinated. It makes me feel like Martha Stewart.

 

Could you identify the skills that make you fascinating to others?

 

Think about what your friends reach out to you for? Is it that you’re a great listener or maybe it’s that you give the best relationship advice? I joke around with my gal pals that I must have a tattoo in my forehead that reads: “Tell me your entire life’s story,” cuz when my girlfriends come up to me, they spill for hours. I have material for at least five operas + three novels, I assure you. I’m a great listener.

 

Consider your ninja moves at work + what you’re constantly applauded for: Is it your killer problem-solving chops or perhaps it’s your ability to connect people who need to meet? Moi? I have this thing with being smart. I think women who are eager learners + intelligent are the prettiest. Yet, in spite of my best intentions to get into the best school or win the most prestigious diplomas, I’m never called out for being the smartest or most talented of the bunch. It’s true. Oh but you should hear what people have to say about my whimsy illustrations. Those e-mails that make my heart melt. “Seriously Universe, that’s my thing?” Okay, if my people aren’t impressed with the gold stars but go head over heals for my little paintings, I’ll take it!

 

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And last, but not least, amongst your family, what do you excel at? My auntie Irene jokingly says, “Never show skill,” because once cousins + uncles + granny + company know what your great at, let’s say, drill walls, you will the the person they call every time they need to hang anything. Forever. You know how to change light bulbs? Your are the designated light bulb changer. You design business cards? Well, prepare to whip out cards for the entire freaking family.

 

Funny story: A couple of months back, my dad needed help buying a juicer on Amazon. Now EVERY TIME he needs to buy anything online you know who he calls? No not the Ghostbusters. He calls ME. Damn it! Well, it ain’t all bad. Dad always prepares the most delicious Italian fest when I come over to help. Yum!

 

So what is that je ne sais pas people come to you for? It might seems tedious to execute all those magic tricks for free, but what would happen if you could start charging premium prices for your ninja moves? Not so annoying anymore, am I right?

 

Jot it down. Everything.

 

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Things Your Clients Will Buy

When I graduated from Kindergarden, my parent gave me a Paint Spinner, the little plastic machine with a spinning disc you squeeze paint into + all the sudden, voila, you’re Picasso. Right!

 

We lived in Ann Arbor, Michigan at the time. My mom had won a Fulbright Scholarship to attend University of Michigan. While she was at Law School, I did art stands, like lemonade stands, except instead of selling lemonade, I sold my masterpieces made, of course, with my little spinner.

 

The line of kids reached the end of the block. Not to brag, but I was a ROCKSTAR. Right then + there I knew I was born to be an artist.

 

Now the part of the story I always leave out is this (I’ll tell you if you promise me it stays here): as it turns out, the reason why my art pieces were selling like hot tamales for 50 cents a pop was because they came combined with a bag of Hershey’s kisses. “Mayita,” my mom smiled as she made the infamous confession, “the chocolates were a dollar at the store.”

 

Dang! Alright maybe my first business ideas wasn’t truly “profitable,” but I won my life. I discovered that there is nothing more grand than confidence + self-love + that invincible feeling of: “You know what, I’m pretty awesome!” All that was required was a duo of mom + dad that let me dream.

 

Do you remember your first business? Did you sell confetti to your classmates or was it brownies? Did you paint holiday cards or wash the neighbors cars? What was it? As irrelevant as these pioneer businesses might seem today, they carry with them hidden lessons in profit + worth.

 

If someone would have told me five years ago I would be making a living talking about the smelly gremlins that get in the way + making the world a happier place with my cute illustrations, gosh, I’d believed them. Partly because I’m naive, but most of all because I remember that line of kids who wanted to buy MY PAINTINGS. You know how powerful that is?

 

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Now it’s time to put this into action.

 

Step 1:

You are made of microscopic super powerful particles. It’s time to brainstorm what you love to do + what people praise you for + what your clients have shown interest in purchasing for you. Think about it. Make a list.

 

Step 2:

Cross out the ones you consistently have trouble focusing on. If you can rarely devote more than a 90 minutes to this skill, it likely isn’t a Super Power. It’s might be a seasonal hubby, but not your thang, if ya’ know what I mean sistah. You’re looking for those actions that you regularly get into the zone doing.

 

I still remember the first product I ever created to stock my Etsy shop. It was a hair fascinator made out of eco-friendly felt. I made it with all my heart. I waited for that first sale, like how I waited for the Tooth Fairy to bring me my $5 bill. It came. I celebrated it with a shot of limoncello. Or maybe two. Who knows. And after that first order came in, others quickly followed. Once order a week, became one order a day. One a day because one every few hours. Wait a second! I didn’t sign up for this.

 

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I began resenting my orders. I know it sounds insane, but I wasn’t sleeping + I wasn’t eating right + I wasn’t exercising. My lifestyle sucked. I canceled romantic date nights. I skipped lunch with friends. My hands, my goodness, they looked like monster claws. Soon enough, I fired my handmade hair accessories collection. Hasta la vista baby! Not even a moment of silence. I had it!

 

Like me, lots of people force themselves to do something they don’t actually want to do, maybe because they think they should or perhaps because they’re good at it + can make a lot of money with it.

 

I could have build a successful career as an artist that makes lovely hair pieces, but again, I remember that acid reflux sensation in the mouth of my stomach each time I had to say no to pizza night to cut felt instead. I could have even continued to build a profitable business as a coach, but I felt a slight resistance every time I had to sit down with a client one-on-one. I knew that if I wanted to make a meaningful difference in people’s lives, I couldn’t feel like I was PMSing. For me, coaching didn’t make me feel super. So I fired that as well. Slowly, I’ve mapped out a more sensible business model for the type of lifestyle I want to live, one that makes me feel Mayi, not Mayi-zilla.

 

If you have to force yourself to do something, cross it off the list.

 

Step 3:

Highlight the things in your list you feel most passionate about. You are looking for those activities that make you feel like a goddess. The ones that make you forget time + space. The onces you can talk about for hours without ever getting bored. The onces you can’t seem to get off your mind. The onces that make you smile as if it were Friday, everyday.

 

Step 4:

Make a list of all the ways you could start using your Super Power, now. Even though it may take you time to transition into a more meaningful work situation, you can still incorporate the things you love into your life this second.

 

If what you want to do is help people, but you can’t publish a book tomorrow, start a blog. It could even be one small thing each week, like mailing a handmade “Thank You” Card to someone who has made a difference in your live.

 

My very talented friend + Life is Messy Bootcamp alum, Marbel Canseco got contacted my Sally Hogshead, as in THE Sally Hogshead because by being her quirky self + posting something about Sally’s up n’ coming book, she cared + shared + made a connection. You can move people, shake people everyday with the littlest things. You just gotta DO IT! Put yourself out there.

 

For the longest time I kept blocking magazine features or TV spotlights because I kept saying, “I’m low profile” or “I don’t care about that sort of stuff”. Bullsh*t. If I was low profile, I would have picked something more modest as my profession, maybe envelop licker. If I didn’t care, then why couldn’t I stop dreaming about The Ellen Show? I’ve been too scared to admit out in the open that I actually light up when I’m acknowledged + recognized.

 

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True tale: The second I was brave enough to confess to the Universe, “You know what Miss Universe, I’m not ashamed anymore. I want it. The praise. The attention. The love. I want it ALL”, the doors started to open. I got the e-mail I’d been waiting A YEAR to get. I got the magazine cover I always dreamed of. I got the invitation I knew I deserved. It all happened last week, LAST WEEK PEOPLE, and all it took was a little bit of cojones + a New Years confession to the Universe.

 

Update: Less than an hour after publishing this workshop, my phone ran. I got a call from the biggest supermarket chain in the country. They want to sell my cookbook Life is Messy Kitchen as it comes out of the printers March 2, in stores all across the nation  Wait a second, WHAT? WHAAAAAT??? Holy guacamole. What is happening?

 

Is this all a coincidence? You tell me. All the events that have happened in the last couple of days have lead me to believe that we have the power to attract + repel. The choice is always ours.

 

It’s funny how opportunities have a way of evolving + surprising us when we find the courage to consistently take action. By using your Super Power, you very well may open yourself up to personal + professional opportunities. At the very least, you’ll make a positive difference in the world doing something that makes you feel fulfilled.

 

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Recognizing what you love to do + acknowledging what you’re freaking-tastic at + getting honest about what your prospects are truly willing to spend money on, can take time, and the process of pursuing it can feel scary at times, but it all comes down to whether or not what you gain is more valuable to you than what you think you’re risking.

 

Weight it out. I’m hoping that you’ll soon acknowledge you really want it BAD ENOUGH, enough to push through the minor inconveniences that come with being super.

 

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That’s it for today.

 

Tomorrow, I will show you how to clarify your vision. Stay tuned!

 

Whether you decide to join us for an all new season of Life is Messy Bootcamp or not, I truly believe this 5-Day Life is Messy Challenge can transform your life + give you the basic framework you need to breakthrough + experience miracles this year + every single one after that.

 

If you have a friend, a loved one, looking to accomplish BIG things in 2015, it would mean the world if you could point them in this direction. THANK YOU for helping me spread the word with the fancy social media buttons below!

 

CLICK TO TWEET: Today I discovered my SUPER POWER. Want to find out your SUPER POWER? Click here: http://bit.ly/1C9l7RZ … it’s FREE!!! @mayicarles

 

See you mañana.

 

xo,

Mayi Carles

 

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Recall the pure joy of riding a backyard swing? Easy. Effortless. I remember pumping my legs to drive me higher, thinking that if I just pushed a little bit more I could somehow touch the clouds. Know that feeling?

 

The thing with swings though is that we are not so much swinging as being swung. Gravity does most of the work. Our job is to simply work with the wind, to stop holding back with our need to control the pace. Trying too hard sabotages speed. Trying becomes striving + striving undoes itself.

 

If there is one thing I learned in 2014 is that striving doesn’t work. Striving leads to eating the entire fridge to take the edge off. We are not built for striving. We don’t strive, we have already arrived. We are already everything. Our job is simply to work with the wind, sing with it’s lines + nature, to stop holding ourselves back with our thrashing struggles to go faster, to be perfect, to outperform the swing to the right.

 

If you’re anything like me (and to a degree, I suspect we are cut with a similar star-shaped cookie cutter, you + I), you’re extremely pumped about the start of the year. January is the perfect time to pause + hit the reset button + make all sorts of to-do lists. You are prepared to be blown away by all that 2015 has to bring. You are invincible.

 

Simultaneously, you wanna pee in your pajama bottoms. Maybe you’re hunted by all those things that didn’t go according to plan in 2014 or perhaps you’re feeling like crap because you see yourself recycling the same shi*t you wrote in your 2015 New Years resolution.

 

Here’s my New Years message to you: Hey, it’s gonna be OKAY. I promise.

 

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So, what does it take for transformation? For BIG breakthroughs? Cuz listen, I know you’re not messing around here. Not another year of “lessons” + “progress” + “slowly transitioning into…”. You want freaking abundance alright. The real deal! So what does it take? Let’s think about this for a second. What does it take to have the best year ever?

 

I don’t claim to have all the answers, but I will teach you how to ask the right questions.

 

Ponder for a moment how you would like 2015 to be like:

  • What are you most excited about?
  • What is your 2015 mantra?
  • What word will guide you in 2015?
  • What do you want to stand for in 2015?
  • What is your number ONE personal goal?
  • What is your number ONE business goal?
  • What do you want to be known for in 2015?
  • What books do you want to read in 2015?
  • What do you want to be know for in 2015?
  • When you Google your name, what do you want to see there?
  • How do I want to feel in 2015?

 

Create a vision that makes you excited to jump out of bed in the morning. Truly take some time to think this through. This is your story you are writing here. There are too many mediocre things in life, your life shouldn’t be one of them. Hint: I find it super helpful to do this exercise with your partner + family or your besties. Cook a great meal together + put some Bossa Nova in the background + set out to craft a more meaningful 2015 + get ready for magical new beginnings + awaken the possibility. Hercules. Herculezzzzz!!!

 

Be careful though, sometimes all this excitement to start fresh triggers loser tapes that remind us of all those times in the past it didn’t work out. It’s tempting to want to Google the answers, to sign our soul to The Solution that will tell us exactly what do to in 3 easy steps. Juice cleanse to fix your entire life in one swoop anyone? Not this year. Not this year my friend.

 

This year, I wish something grand for us. Something extraordinary.

 

This year, I’m choosing self-love over becoming superwoman. I will listen to my heart, it knows.

 

This year, I’m decluttering my hard drive, getting ride of everything I have somehow allowed into my world + no longer serves me. The remaining free space is reserved only for MY desired feelings.

 

This year, I want to live lighter + go further.

 

This year, I won’t let people I don’t even like rent premium real state space in my head even if that condemns me to perpetual reincarnation.

 

Oh yeah + this year, I have no intention of giving up pizza. Not gonna happen.

 

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I believe a life worth living is an easy life. It’s not supposed to be hard, though we can make it that way with limiting scripts + people-pleasing + failing to see ourselves as we really are: infinitely powerful beings, capable of reaching far beyond our wildest dreams.

 

Next week, to celebrate the Fifth Anniversary of Life is Messy Bootcamp, I’m going to show you my down-to-earth process for mapping out what I truly believe will be THE year of miracles. No James Bond stunts or green smoothie potions. I’m talking about an honest peek inside my lifestyle design factory. And I’m doing it publicly for support + accountability + my own amusement, but mostly to inspire you to stop the glorification of over planning + start an honest quest to greatness. 

 

Plan

 

I invite you to interrupt self-imposed correctional facility-type New Year rituals with a more sensible + stress-free practice. There’s a gentler way people. Get ready, to make 2015 a year of steady acceleration, a year of radical happiness. Who’s with me?

 

If you’re looking for The Magic Formula that will fix all your problems with the flick of a wand, this would be a good place to stop reading. But if you’re tired of ku-ra-zy resolution setting that only leaves you feeling like a psycho killer, you will love what’s coming up next.

 

What To Expect Over The Next Couple of Days!

I’m kicking off 5 beautifully messy days of unlearning how to be RoboCop so you can be gorgeously human, flawed + fabulous. Just gimme ONE WEEK, I’ll give you a treasure map to be available for life’s magic!

 

Starting this Monday, January 12th + going until Friday, January 16th, I’m gonna be posting one workshop a day to help you go from New Year overachiever crazy pants mode (that we all know will only lead to eating the entire pint of Häagen-Dazs) to New Year happy like a hippo (a person who gets it done + even has time to watch a documentary on Netflix + close the office early on Fridays). Here’s the drill:

 

Applying the core Life is Messy Bootcamp principles, you will learn:

  • How powerful you really are + how far you can reach + why it matters.
  • How to design a life more suited for you.
  • How to make room for your BIG audacious ideas.
  • How to create an inventory of open loops + “incompletes”, so you can finally put an end to mental constipation.
  • How to go from lightbulb to done with a simple to use calendar system.

 

Whether you decide to join us for an all new season of Life is Messy Bootcamp or not, these daily exercises will give you the basic framework you need to KA-POW, kill it this year + every single one after that.

 

Join the 5-Day Life is Messy Challenge… it’s FREE!

I invite you… no, I challenge you to join me. Take ONE step a day for FIVE days, simple habits that can transform your life, because when you remove the emotional baggage + all those unrealistic expectations + the T-Rex pressure, you allow yourself to breakthrough, to experience miracles. 

 

The next few days will be so valuable you will think I lost my mind for not packaging this up in a cute bow + charging big bucks for it. I’m serious. This series is THAT good. And it will be entertaining as hell too. Translation: I’m going to embarrass myself with backstories like that one time I was convinced I gave up sugar + then stuffed my face with a frozen butterbeer from the Wizarding World of Harry Potter.

 

So, get ready for great value + a lot of fun. I’m pretty sure you’re going to love it.

 

This 5-Day Life is Messy Challenge is FREE to you + it’s happening right here on the blog. If you sign up to my list + participate daily you will receive:

  • Exclusive access to download the daily playsheets that go with the workshops.
  • A chance to win two Life is Messy Planners, one for yourself + one to give away to anyone you’d like.
  • A chance to win a FREE pass to Life is Messy Bootcamp. 

 

To participate, you will need to do 3 things:

 

I’ve worked SO hard + creatively to make this 5-Day Life is Messy Challenge AMA-ZING for you + super informative + easy to implement no matter your busy schedule. I’m excited to spend a week helping you transform your life with love + compassion.

 

Do you know someone looking to accomplish BIG things in 2015 + make it the best year ever? Share this free series!

 

Are you ready? Sign up + I’ll see you on Monday!

 

xo,

Mayi Carles

 

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