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Tips For Using Your Planner (Messy Tabs Inside)

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All our lives we’ve been told the things we should + shouldn’t do:

  • Paint inside the lines.
  • Eat your veggies.
  • Memorize poems.
  • Put your opt-in box at the right hand side of your website
  • Follow the recipe.
  • Read the instructions before assembling.
  • Brush your teeth.
  • Call your mom.
  • Comb your hair.
  • No rollerblading inside the house.
  • Elbows off the table.
  • Stop crying.

 

So when my Life is Messy Bootcamp alumn, Karen Lema asked for assistance on how to best use her Life is Messy Planners, I really debated whether or not I should hand out a manual.

 

I decided to put together this blog post instead. Hopefully I’ll provide enough guidance to kickstart your best year ever + leave enough wiggle room for your big juicy creative imagination.

 

Keep on reading if you care to steal my black belt planning moves. Ka-POW!

 

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Getting Started

First things first. I can’t stress enough the importance of having a robust system you can trust – a calendar where you can collect all your “I wills” + turn them into “I dids”.  This is not only the place where you jot down your action items, but also track your big picture landscape. Be sure to pick a calendar system that you like + goes well with your style and personality.

 

Today, I’m gonna talk specifically about how to use my Life is Messy Planners, but you’re welcome to use these guideposts + adapt them for your own management workflow. No judgement.

 

To tell you the truth, from the very beginning (my gosh, has it really been 5 years since I first conceptualized these planners?) there hasn’t been an official rule book to operate my Life is Messy Planners, and I did that up purpose.

 

Traditional planning has always felt quite artificial to me + irrelevant to real work, which is why I’m guessing most people drop their New Years resolutions by the time February shows up. Sad. I didn’t want to create another calendar solution people feel chained to. No way Jose!

 

I envisioned more like a roadmap, a lighthouse that provides just enough direction for your journey to the top of your metaphorical Mount Everest:

  • Enough structure to take your brilliant ideas from light bulb to done without becoming a correctional facility.
  • Enough wiggle room to unleash your unique gifts + honor your most valued forms of currency freedom + happiness.

 

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That being said, here are some humble tips to get started that don’t make you feel like a military sargent is shouting in your ear that your lack willpower:

  • Go to www.lifeismessyplanners.com to purchase your planners, if you want to (wink).
  • You’ll get an instant e-mail with your link to download your planners.
  • Set your printer to fit the entire page.
  • For your visual delights, use a color printer.
  • Preferably, print on 8.5 x 11 inch paper or cardstock.
  • Fill in directly on your computer, or
  • Fill in with your fave writing + coloring instruments.
  • To keep your sheets tidy, use a ring binder.
  • Hole punch your sheets.
  • Divide your sections with cool tab dividers.
  • Get your hands on fun washi tape + stickers.
  • Pin your urgent sheets to a corkboard for easy reminding.

 

Now let’s jazz it up!

 

Getting The Tools You Need

Over the years, I’ve gathered a short but might powerful list of my favorite supplies + tools + equipments to use alongside my planners. And here they are. Mayi’s favorite thing (that are not expensive at all):

 

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I mean, you don’t really need any of these, but then again you don’t need a superhero cape + yet you kinda want one, don’t you? With your initial n’ all. I know!

 

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Organizing Your Planner

This is how I intuitively categorize + organize the sections in my Life is Messy Planners, in case you’re curious:

 

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Big Picture:

  • Goal Generator
  • Goal Getter
  • Habit Tracker
  • Resolution Tracker

 

Calendar:

  • Daily To Do Planner (2)
  • Weekly To Do Planner
  • Monthly To Do Planner (12)
  • Month At A Glance
  • Yearly To Do Planner
  • Mental Detox

 

Personal:

  • All Out Of
  • Chore Chart
  • Don’t Forget Contacts
  • Happy Birthdays
  • Home Improvement
  • In Case of Emergency
  • Oh Happy Day
  • Party Planner
  • Password Keeper
  • Personal Avatar
  • Recipe Cheat Sheet
  • Shopping List
  • Trip Planner
  • Weekly Fitness Planner
  • Weekly Meal Planner

 

Business:

  • Blog Planner
  • Customer Avatar
  • Idea Picker
  • One Page Business Plan
  • One Page Project Planner
  • One Page to Newsletter
  • Super Power Finder
  • Sweet Spot Finder

 

Money:

  • Yearly Money Tracker

 

Creative Brainstorming:

  • Brainstorm
  • Creative Brainstorming Pages (5)
  • Journal
  • Quotes

 

Extras:

  • Decision Maker
  • The Stop List
  • Things To Do
  • This is a Checklist

 

If you dig my method, you can totally borrow my Messy Tabs to help keep things tidy. You’re very welcome!

 

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Tips To Rock Your Planners

You may wonder how I maintain my system up n’ running. How I keep at it, in spite of the day-to-day resistance. Well, it’s not always as pretty as I would like, (please ignore the tower of dirty plates in my kitchen sink) but here are some tips I’ve found trigger all sorts of success fairies:

  • Buy a planner that you absolutely LOVE – the style + the size + the shape + the format + the colors, so that you take pleasure each time you use it. Your planner should make you smile, not cringe into a fetal position.
  • Put EVERYTHING into your planners – names + dates + notes + appointments. Consider it information central. Your brain isn’t stupid, if it knows you don’t keep everything there, it will not take your planner seriously.
  • Have a place where you open your planner + work on your planner – a workstation with the appropriate furniture + tools to serve as a central cockpit of control.
  • It doesn’t hurt to designate a special pen to be your companion during this mission. Every time I get out my Hello Kitty pen, I know it’s time to conquer the world.
  • Maintain ONE, and only ONE planner.
  • Recite the mantra, “If it’s not schedule, it doesn’t exist.”
  • In your planner, keep schedule of appointments, including appointments with yourself.
  • Block out time each day to work on your planner + plan the next days Daily To Do Planner sheet.
  • Take your Daily To Do Planner (or your Oh Happy Day sheet) with you EVERYWHERE you go.
  • Use tabs to organize your sections + stickies to mark important items that need your attention.

 

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Now, that’s what works for me.

 

What is working for you? Do you have a magical marker to scribble your tasks? Do you spill pancake syrup on your sheets for good luck? What is it? Tell me how you set yourself up for epicness, in the comments below.

 

See you in the chat!

 

xo,

Mayi Carles

 

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Day 5 of the 5-Day Life is Messy Challenge: A Trusted Calendar System

Part 5

 

We’ve reached our final day of this (hopefully) super fun + value-packed series that promises to set you off on the right path to create the best 2015 EVER! Don’t forget that everyone who participates automatically enters the drawing to win a Life is Messy Bootcamp scholarship. Hip hip hooray!

 

To a great degree, this free training is not about handing you a formula + expect you to do exactly as I say, but about stealing the little tricks you can see yourself implement right away. Cuz at the end of the day, it’s those teeny tiny action steps that accumulate into a big giant pile of awesome over time. Steady acceleration that keeps you sane.

 

There is no wrong way to do this challenge.  There’s no space for “I’m falling behind” or “I’m missing out”. You are where you need to be. Trust that you will get exactly what you need from this experience of learning + expansion. You’ll meet the people you’re meant to meet. You’ll have the “aha moments” you need to have. You’ll see the comments you’ve meant to see. Overwhelm is a choice, so choose wise my young padawan.

 

Today, to wrap things up with a BANG, we are going to move from framework to full-scale implementation. I’ll show you my trusted system for managing my workflow (and my lifeflow as well) + I’ll provide you with a logical sequence of doing work that matters, but making it as easy as possible for you to get on board + see how you start to break through.

 

KA-POW! Get your nunchakus ready.

 

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Here’s the step-by-step action plan to getting more done in record time, minus the meltdowns + brain cellulite + grumpiness typically associated with boring calendar systems:

 

Step 1:

GET CLEAR

Have you ever gone to The Cheesecake Factory when you’re really, really hungry? You’re so hungry you’re angry. You’re one hangry human being. Of course you end up wanting everything on their Encyclopedic menu + making the waiter + the rest of your party wait ages for your meal verdict. There’s also a big chance you ordered waaaaay more than you should have + you’ll regret the caloric intake later, because the indulgence wasn’t even worth it. It happens when you’re not clear about what you’re truly hungry for.

 

Going to the grocery store on an empty stomach, same shitty situation.

 

In today’s schizophrenic world, clarity equals power. Lack of clarity equals gremlin town.

 

You can’t master your life until you have a Master Plan for your life. Know what I mean? Because if you don’t tell the Universe what you want, how do you expect to get it? For example, if you want to shrink your waistline, stop tell the Universe, “I’m fat”. It might come true one day if you keep saying it over + over + over again. Stop giving the world mixed signals. It’s freaking confusing.

 

That’s why I urged you to clarify your vision for what you want your life + business to look like on Day 2.

 

This is a good time to get out your vision board. It will be your compass. It will inform your decisions. It will help you table items + star the ones that matter to you most. Clarity leads to prosperity.

 

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Let me give you an example from my own life. This year I picked one word to carry me through till the end of 2015. That word is: SELF-LOVE. I want to be less like a machine + more people. I’m letting go of the Mayi that punishes herself on the treadmill for eating an Oreo Madness all by herself + embracing the woman that’s not at war with herself, but IN LOVE with herself. I used to fear change, but now I see my body changing everyday to make room for our precious Olivia + I’ve never felt more confident + complete in my life; every silly insecurity vanished because of the life growing inside of me. With that in mind, this is what my Yearly To Do Planner looks like:

  • JANUARY: Launch Life is Messy Bootcamp, The 2015 Edition + release the new video (ahhh I’m soooo excited about this). Work on my bedtime routine. Finish Magical Beginnings, Enchanting Lives by Deepak Chopra. Get myself a magic carpet yoga mat.
  • FEBRUARY: Work on expanding my Life is Messy line with new notepads + stationary goods. Merchandising maybe? Read The Big Leap. Vision board Olivia’s nursery. Celebrate Valentine’s Day the entire month. Secret project with my business partner April Bowles.
  • MARCH: Life is Messy Kitchen comes out of the over. Big book launch party. Start Pre-Natal Yoga classes with my friend Marlene. Order Olivia’s wallpaper + furniture. Read Profit First. Translate Life is Messy Planners to Spanish.
  • APRIL: Meet with Life is Messy Kitchen stockists + book signing events. Start putting together Olivia’s room. Book a spa date with mom.
  • MAY: Baby-proof my business. What do I want to do with Life is Messy Baby + Life is Messy Kids? Help hubby decorate his new office space. Try out a new restaurant… something we’ve never had before. Maybe Vietnamese food?
  • JUNE: This month I become a mom… OMG OMG I’m so excited!!! Find a good audiobook to take for a spin. Plan extra special date nights every week. Do a “Half-Way There” Yearly Review + tweak goals + reset intentions as needed.
  • JULY: Continue expanding my Life is Messy line of products. Find strategic allies. Learn how to make ravioli from scratch.
  • AUGUST: Expanding my Life is Messy line with back to school products. Experiment with baby food. Maybe a Life is Messy Baby Cookbook?
  • SEPTEMBER: Introduce back to school items. Blog about my experience as a mom while being an entrepreneur.
  • OCTOBER: Collect Life is Messy Bootcamp feedback + testimonials + brainstorm ways to make the new edition even better.
  • NOVEMBER: Big promo of the year! This is a good time to upgrade + optimize my systems + websites + platforms. Plan what kind of holiday I want to have with my family. Do I want to be The Grinch, buying presents December 24 or do I want to be nice ginger bread cookie maker Mayi? I get to choose.
  • DECEMBER: First Christmas with Olivia. My Christmas tree cannot suck. Dream about the new year.

 

With a clear vision of where I wanna go, I feel empowered + prepared for (almost) anything.

 

Step 2:

FROM MACRO TO MICRO

Ever feel like you’re continuously on hamster wheel mode, simply surviving the day-to-day? I know, it happens to me all the time when I shift my attention from big picture (“I want see my cookbook out in the world, as a physical book”) to instant gratification mind set (“Oh look my Hulk Waffles got 128 likes on Instagram!”). This step is all about reconnecting with your audacious dreams + reverse engineering for success.

 

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Reverse engineering is the process of dissecting an idea + project or goal into all its teeny tiny components + details in order to recreate it. The purpose is to break down daunting idea + project or goal into ridiculously small tasks that are impossible not to check-off. For example: If committing to working out everyday seems intimidating, why not say you’ll do one hundred squats a day? Heck, why not commit to one squat a day? Anyone can do one squat, right? Nothing can get in the way of ONE squat. One squat is so insultingly easy, you trick yourself into doing it, which in turn unleashes the potential for more. More good habits you actually stick to + make you happy.

 

So, how do you put this into practice? Break down your T-Rex idea + project or goal from macro (“I want to re-design my website) to micro (“Pick out color palette”) using your to-do planners in the following sequence: Yearly To Do Planner > Monthly To Do Planner > Weekly To Do Planner > Daily To Do Planner.

 

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Tip: Be very picky + strict about the stuff that gets into your calendar. By default, you should be saying NO to a lot of things + YES only to the projects that align with your big vision + make your heart sing like Christmas morning, if you were nice.

 

Step 3:

FROM TO-DO TO DONE

I’m a big fan of writing things down on paper. Can you tell? Well, cuz I believe that what you get off your head + onto paper shapes your reality.

 

To-do lists help you stay focused + set priorities + forget nothing + turbo- charge your productivity. But there’s an art to list making. The key to getting the meaningful stuff done is to focus on the most important things you want to get done in the next 24 hours, as opposed to the 50 or more items I see on most people’s to-dos.

 

Long lists are important to keep in the back burner (like with the Mental Detox we did in your previous mission), because they help you feed your calendar system, but please know this: long lists can never be finished + there’s a huge negative psychological impact to not accomplishing what’s on there. It leaves you drained + feeling like a total loser (with a capital L shaped with your index finger + thumb and tattooed into your forehead). You get the picture.

 

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And even when you do check off items from your T-Rex sized to-do list, it’s usually the easiest tasks that get knocked off first. But who are we kidding, right? We all know very well that the speediest items are rarely the most transcendental. So, again, we’re left feeling like a failure.

 

Short daily lists, on the other hand, are realistic + give you superpowers + make you feel freaking-tastic, because you can actually cross everything off. There’s an enormous psychological boost in getting done exactly what you set out to tackle, especially when they have big ripple effects for your life + business.

 

The best way to put this into action is to take out your complete Mental Detox exercise + hand pick five items that you want to tackle in the next 24 hours. Your list might look something like this:

  • Prepare my Hearty Marinara Sauce for tonight’s dinner party with my in-laws.
  • Publish Day 5 of the 5-Day Life is Messy Challenge.
  • Finish concept sketch for secret project with April.
  • Package Etsy order + ship parcel.
  • Meet with my webmaster to finish last details of new Life is Messy Bootcamp landing page.

 

Step 4:

ALLOCATE TIME TO EACH TASK

Now you need to determine + plan how much time each task requires. This is an important step to make sure your five items can literally be tackled in a day without giving you an ulcer. The key is to keep your tasks manageable + hors d’oeurvres size. If a project is too large to finish in one day, can you deconstruct it even further?

 

When you assign how much time each task needs, your list might look something like this:

  • Prepare my Hearty Marinara Sauce for tonight’s dinner party with my in-laws – 60 minutes.
  • Publish Day 5 of the 5-Day Life is Messy Challenge – 90 minutes.
  • Finish concept sketch for secret project with April – 90 minutes.
  • Package Etsy order + ship parcel – 30 minutes.
  • Meet with my webmaster to finish last details of new Life is Messy Bootcamp landing page – 60 minutes.

 

You also want to make sure you don’t work on a single productive task past the 90 minute mark because your mind + body will lose their ability to focus + work optimally. If you haven’t, take a 15 minute break + then go back to it. There are a ton of fancy stopwatch apps to do this, but I use a simple tomato-shaped kitchen timer to track my work sprints + force my much-needed play breaks.

 

Another thing to keep in mind: Make sure your total amount of productive tasks don’t go above seven or eight to prevent burnout + potato chip binges. Also, leave room for miscellaneous periods that require little time + almost no mental effort like answering e-mails + returning phone calls + having lunch with a friend + calling your mom + etc. Take care of these reactive tasks between the big items. It will give your brain a needed break. It will also keep your momentum going + feed your sense of accomplishment.

 

Step 5:

PLAN THE DAY

It’s time to schedule exactly how your next day is going to roll out.

 

For that, you’ll need to get out your Daily To Do Planner. To fully plan your day, you need to remember to leave wiggle-room zones for play + to account for curve balls.

 

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Your schedule might look something like this:

  • 7:00 – 7:30 AM – Stretch on the yoga mat.
  • 7:30 – 8:00 AM – Breakfast: Baked Oatmeal.
  • 9:00 – 10:00 AM – Doctor’s appointment – Fourth Month Check Up.
  • 10:30 – 11:30 AM – Prepare Hearty Marinara Sauce.
  • 11:30 – 12:30 PM – E-mail session.
  • 12:30 – 2:00 PM – Lunch: Ensalada de Toldo.
  • 2:00 – 4:00 PM – Publish Day 5 of the 5-Day Life is Messy Challenge.
  • 4:00 – 4:30 PM – Finish concept sketch for secret project with April
  • 4:30 – 5:00 PM – Package Etsy order + ship parcel
  • 5:00 – 5:30 PM – E-mail session.
  • 5:30 – 6:30 PM – Meet with my webmaster.
  • 6:30 – 7:00 PM – Pack the car. We’re going to the beach. Yee ha!
  • 7:00 – 8:30 PM – Roadtrip. Bring Jack Johnson CD.
  • 9:00 – 11:00 PM – Dinner Party with the in-laws with salty hair + ocean breeze.
  • 11:00 – 12:00 PM – Watch Cloud Atlas + unwind.
  • Midnight – Bed time.

 

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Now look at your Daily To Do Planner + examine how much of your day is proactive + how much is reactive. Rewrite your plan so that 80% of your schedule is focused on proactive tasks (innovation + creating + making) + 20% on reactive tasks (replying to e-mails + responding to blog comments + answering questions raised on social media). And never ever forget to make room for fun (or a little dose of Vitamin Sea wink wink).

 

Also, analyze when you’re scheduling the most important tasks, either at the beginning, the middle or the end of the day. Rewrite your plan so that you are completing the hardest, most important, tasks in your most productive hours of the day.

 

Step 6:

REPEAT

Make it a habit to finish each day by setting the next day’s agenda. Not because I want to turn you into a compulsive control freak, but because this is how high performers leave nothing to chance or sloppy decision making. If you don’t commit to a healthy breakfast, for instance, you’ll be left at the mercy of bagels + office birthday cake. Oh my!

 

You wouldn’t be caught dead driving blindfolded, would you? Then tell me why do you fog your path ahead with unpredictable nothingness? With an empty schedule that’s code for gremlin attack. You might as well be blind-folded.

 

Can you see it more clearly now?

 

Of course, there will always be emergencies + urgencies + people that might interfere with your schedule. The key to staying on course is to anticipate these detours + have an emergency Plan B. The meeting was moved to your spinning class time? No problem, you have a go-to Shaun T’s Rockin’ Body DVD waiting for you at home. The gluten free pizza dough didn’t rise? Don’t sweat the small stuff; have Ezekiel tortillas in hand in case of emergencies.

 

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Tip: I like to block “Sh*t Pickle Windows” in my calendar each week to accommodate any hiccups that might occur. That way, even if all hell breaks loose, I’m never insanely behind + I feel on top of my game.

 

Don’t make the mistake of winging it or leaving your calendar empty at the mercy of other peoples emergencies. An empty planner means it can be easily crowded with nonsensical time wasters that don’t do a thing for your epicness. Instead, crowd out your planners with the stuff that really matters to you. Do it now.

 

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DO THIS  NOW: Put your hands together; I mean, your steps together. It’s time to turn theory into practice + take your messy-proof planning system for a test drive. Download your Daily To Do Planner + Weekly Do To Planner + Monthly To Do Planner + Yearly To Do Planner. Let’s make some damage (the good kind). And don’t forget to let me know in the comments how it went. Remember, your participation in this challenge earns you cookie points to win a Life is Messy Bootcamp scholarship.

 

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And that’s a wrap!

 

I hope you’ve loved this 5-Day Life is Messy Challenge as much as I’ve loved creating it for you. My wish for you is that this year, this life, becomes all that you want it to be. And then more, much more. My wish for you is that your dreams get bigger + your worries smaller. My wish for you is that you never have to carry more than you can hold at once. And while you’re climbing to the top of your metaphorical Mount Everest, I hope you know somebody believes in you + wants you to succeed, wants you to be happy + free! Yes, this is my wish.

 

Next week, I’ve got amazing surprises lined up for you to celebrate the Fifth Anniversary of Life is Messy Bootcamp – giveaways + a brand new website for all my messies + a mini movie I’m so excited to premier. I can barely contain myself.

 

Whether you decide to join us for an all new season of Life is Messy Bootcamp or not, I truly believe this series can transform your life + give you the basic framework you need to breakthrough + experience miracles this year + every single one after that. And if you ever find yourself in a painful plateau, you know where to find me.

 

One last favor, if it’s not too much to ask. If you have a friend, a loved one, looking to accomplish BIG things in 2015, it would mean the world if you could point them in this direction. THANK YOU for helping me spread the word with the fancy social media buttons below!

 

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See you mañana.

 

xo,

Mayi Carles

 

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Day 4 of the 5-Day Life is Messy Challenge: Get It All Out Of Your Head

Part 4

 

Between the time you woke up today + now, did you think of anything you needed to do that you still haven’t done? Have you had the thought more than once?

 

Do you let your mind run a lot of the show, especially where the too-much-to-do department is concerned. Feels like you would need the entire Yedi Council to step in + clean up all that mess.

 

Ever feel like your head is about to explode? Explode from information overload? Explode from too many unexecuted ideas? Explode from all the things that needed to get done a long time ago?

 

I know, it happens to me too.

 

If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably made many more agreement with yourself than you realize, and every single one of them, big or small, is being tracked by a less than conscious part of you. These are the “incompletes” or “open loops”, which I define as anything pulling at your attention that doesn’t belong where it is, the way it is. These can include everything from really big to-do items like “Save the pandas”, to more modest “Hire a photographer”, to the tiniest task such as “Replace batteries in A/C remote”.

 

It’s very likely that you also have more internal commitments currently in play than you’re aware of. Consider how many things you feel even the smallest amount of responsibility to change + finish + handle or do something about. To a degree, you feel responsible to deal in some way with every new e-mail that lands on your inbox. Even your projects have areas that need to be defined. Again, responsibility, responsibility, responsibility.

 

Why Things Are On Your Mind

Most often, the reason something is “on your mind” is that you what it to be different than it currently is, and yet:

  • You haven’t clarified exactly what the intended outcome is.
  • You haven’t decided what the very next physical action step is.
  • You haven’t put reminders of the outcome + the action required in a system you trust.

 

That’s why it’s on your mind. Until those thoughts have been clarified + those decisions made + the resulting data has been stored in a system that you absolutely trust, your brain can’t give up the job.

 

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You can’t fool your brain. It knows when you haven’t come to the conclusions you need to. It knows whether you’ve scheduled your dentist appointment, or not. It knows when there’s no milk in the fridge. It knows.

 

Even when you know what you need to do or the steps you need to take to resolve an issue, your mind can’t let go until you write yourself a reminder in a place it knows you will, without fail, look. Until then, your mind will keep nagging, will keep pressuring you + will keep stressing you out.

 

Don’t panic. Mayi here, to the rescue. Got my Hello Kitty. I mean business!

 

It’s actually pretty simple. In order to deal with all that you’ve got going on, you must (1) identify + collect everything that’s ringing a bell (ahem ahem, those things that bug you when you hit the yoga mat) + (2) plan how to handle them. That’s simply taken care of with a Mental Detox. Let me explain.

 

You see, everything we do (and thinking is also doing) takes up space in our lives. Sometimes these thoughts mutate into mental ulcers + mental fat + God’s sake mental cellulite, which is why we must detoxify. Why do people go on Juice Cleanses? Well, to give their body a much needed rest (maybe post one too many Oreos), so it can use all it’s energy to repair tissue + heal + shine. That’s why, I propose a brain dump, a Mental Detox if you will. Why? To give you back your focus + your productive energy + your down-time + your freaking life back.

 

You ready? Let’s do this!

 

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Here’s what you’ll need is:

  • A stop watch or kitchen timer.
  • To set aside 30 minutes of your day.
  • To download + print your Mental Detox sheet.
  • Something to scribble down your crazy, sexy ideas. Yes, you can use your colored markers, Picasso.
  • Follow the steps.

 

Here’s the step-by-step plan:

 

Step 1:

DUMP IT

In order to eliminate all the holes in your leaky bucket, you need to collect + gather together all the things you consider incomplete in your world. Consider it an inventory of open loops. Anything you attach a “need to” + “ought to” or “should”. That’s an incomplete.

 

Grab your Mental Detox printable + spend the next half hour writing everything that distracts you + interest you or in some way consumes a part of your conscious attention. Big projects + teeny tiny projects + coherent thoughts + utter chaos + worries + don’t forgets + would be nice tos… anything that’s swimming around in brain la la land, get it on your paper.

 

It might be a project or a problem that is really in your face. Perhaps it’s something you are being pressed to handle. Maybe you have a vacation trip coming up that you need to make some mayor last-minute decision about. Or it very well may be inherited one million dollars + you don’t know what to do with the cash. Whatever it is, dump it.

 

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By the way, if you catch yourself half way through saying “I’m done”, stand up, walk around, do a little one-woman dance party + sit your cute ass back down. Because just when you think you’re done, there’s always that one more things that’s waiting to come out like a fart. Sorry for all these poo-related references.

 

A note of caution: This isn’t the time to be picky or choosy. There are no wrong or right items to include in your Mental Detox. Everything goes on the page, because what stays in your head, unsaid + ignored + unaccounted for, well, it seeks vengeance when you’re sleeping. Don’t.

 

Step 2:

PICK A DATE

Okay. So, when the time is up, you will end up with something that looks like a doctors prescription – a barely legible page + filled with words that make little to no sense. That’s part of the plan.

 

Now comes the fun part. Can you guess what’s coming? Yeah, it’s time to group your doodles + scribbles by completion date. I need you to prioritize your items according to the following categories:

  • What do you want to get done in the next day?
  • What do you want to get done in the next week?
  • What do you want to get done in the next month?
  • What do you want to do in the next year?

 

There’s a little section on your Mental Detox sheet to do it really easily. You’re welcome.

 

Step 3:

EMPTY YOUR BUCKET

Emptying your bucket does not mean that you have to finish everything that’s on your basket, it just means you have to take it out of the Mental Detox container + give it a proper place on your calendar + decide what should be done with it next. Schedule it if you will in your Daily To Do Planner + Weekly To Do Planner + Monthly To Do Planner + Yearly To Do Planner. You get the drill.

 

Not emptying your bucket is like having empty pizza boxes that nobody ever dumps. you just keep on buying more Dominos pizza + never take out the trash. Yuck!

 

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Of course, in order to do this successfully you need to have in place a management system you can count on. Many people try to get organized but make the mistake of doing it on Post-It notes + napkins + shoe boxes + scraps of last night’s sushi menu. That’s cute. It works for a while. Not anymore. You’re not goofing around here. You need a certain degree of logic to take your routines seriously. You need a robust calendar you respect, enough to never cancel your most important appointments, the ones with YOURSELF. You need bulletproof, nothing to lose. Fire away, fire away. Ricochet, you take your aim. Fire away, fire away. You shoot me down but I won’t fall. I am TITA-NI-UM.

 

Got too carried away there, didn’t I?

 

Step 4:

FIRE THE FLUFF

There must also be items on your list that that you have no emotional connection to + you couldn’t pick a completion date to, like that impersonal e-mail invitation you got (“Hey Blogger”) to participate in a Little Miss Blogger Summit. This is actually a good indication that the item needs to go. If you’re not excited to do it tomorrow + next week + next month + this year, the item doesn’t deserve prime real state space in your head. Unless it’s something mandatory like doing your taxes (which you can outsource too, you know), you have my permission to draw a line + let it go. Firing your ideas + projects is liberating. Trust me.

 

For the longest time I’ve been dragging around Fairy Tale dreams like: “I want to learn yoga + do those funky headstands people do on Instagram.” It would be nice. You know what also would be nice? To be able to offer my Life is Messy Bootcamp in 6 different languages including Spanish, which is my native tongue. It would be absolutely fantastic. A dream come true. This had been nagging me for the longest time until I got really honest with myself + admitted to myself that this is simply not top priorities for me right now + that’s okay. In that moment, I won my life back + I freed myself from this need to be perfect + have it all right now.

 

Free yourself from self-imposed dreams that are just not that important right this second. Remember you can do ANYTHING. Anything you want. Really. Just not everything at once. And that’s okay.

 

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DO THIS NOW: Download your Mental Detox worksheet + follow the steps. Be sure to share your findings in the comment section below for a chance to win cool prizes. Including a FREE membership to Life is Messy Bootcamp

 

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You ready? Let’s do this!

 

When you’re done with this Mental Detox exercise you will, by default, have in front of you a reliable Master List, the kind that will keep your to-do planners busy, but good-busy, like getting-the-stuff-that-really-matters-to-you-most-done kinda busy. You didn’t think this was all about dumping, did you? Oh no, no, no. This is called Life is Messy Challenge for a reason; we recycle crap + turn it into diamonds, baby!

 

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It Doesn’t End Here

Look, I know this isn’t rocket science. We just didn’t re-invent the wheel here. I’m sure that at some point in time you’ve gotten to a place in a project, or in your life, where you just had to sit down + make a list. So you know this works. The thing I’ve noticed though is that you do this kind of list-making drill when the sh•t hits the fan, when the confusion gets unbearable + you just have to do something about it. Or… or…. or you usually make lists only about the specific area that’s bugging you. Why are we like this? My gooosh.

 

Imagine a world where you made that kind of review a characteristic of your ongoing life + work style. And you maintained it across all areas of your life + work, not just your most urgent to-do’s. You’d be practicing the kind of black belt management I teach in Life is Messy Bootcamp.

 

Make an appointment with yourself to do this exercise at least once every quarter. I promise you, it will change your life + business forever.

 

That’s it for today.

 

Tomorrow, I will show my trusted calendar system for getting things done like Beyonce. Stay tuned!

 

Whether you decide to join us for an all new season of Life is Messy Bootcamp or not, I truly believe this 5-Day Life is Messy Challenge can transform your life + give you the basic framework you need to breakthrough + experience miracles this year + every single one after that.

 

If you have a friend, a loved one, looking to accomplish BIG things in 2015, it would mean the world if you could point them in this direction. THANK YOU for helping me spread the word with the fancy social media buttons below!

 

CLICK TO TWEET: Get out of your own way with this Mental Detox brain dump exercise… it’s FREE! – http://bit.ly/1y35Mmq via @mayicarles

 

See you mañana.

 

xo,

Mayi Carles

 

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Day 3 of the 5-Day Life is Messy Challenge: Turn Your Dreams Into Reality

Part 3

 

There’s this quote I love by Gustavo Cerati, that goes like this: “Mereces lo que sueñas”. (English translation: You deserve what you dream). Deep down, I believe that dreaming is the first step to achieving our goals. The problem rises when we disconnect our dreams from reality or our reality from our dreams.

 

I’ve always been a dreamer. I bought my domain name www.mayicarles.com when I was 17. That was FIFTEEN YEARS BACK you guys. I’m talking internet ice ages here. Facebook wasn’t even around. But I had a dream. A blurry dream. But I had a dream nonetheless.

 

I’ve also been a little obsessed with setting goals for myself, but as a first born, too often I’ve found a way to stress myself out with the pushing + over-striving + guilt-tripping. No bueno.

 

Desperately needing a system to turn my crazy dreams into fact without giving myself an ulcer, I came up with this lil’ equation to take light bulb moments into done deals. It’s practical + it’s poetic + I owe so much of my hip hip hoorays to it.

 

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I present to you the method behind my madness, my tested + contested process, my down-to-a-science step-by-step formula for transforming dreams into reality. Here goes:

 

Step 1:

DREAM BIG FIRST

You know that place between sleep + awake. The place you can still remember dreaming? That’s where your life gets scripted. That’s where your bigness lies. Go there, as often as you can.

 

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Tip: Keep a dream journal at your night stand. This is important. You think you’ll remember, but you never do, am I right?

 

Step 2:

JOT DOWN YOUR GOAL

What’s that crazy dream that you can’t seem to get off your mind? That one. Exactly. In order to manifest it, you must first give it a name + put it down on paper or else it’ll only exist in your mind, which we all know is code for “it’s never gonna happen.”

 

Close your eyes + listen carefully to what you’ve always wanted. Alert: This is no New Age, experimental exercise. I mean it. Shut your eyes + ignore your rumbling tummy asking for milkshakes + quiet the “this is stupid” + give yourself permission to listen to what’s there. So, what’s there? Take a mental snapshot.

 

This is no time to be modest. No time to convince yourself that you really don’t want {insert your dream here} that bad. I mean you can try, but we all know that’s a load of hot dogs. Playing small is for the little leagues.

 

Embrace the grandeur of your T-Rex sized world domination aspirations, Pinky.

 

Need a brown bag? That’s okay. It happens to the best. Big, hairy, audacious goals are scary. It’s a good sign though; it means you’re expanding beyond your comfy blanket.

 

Now, over the years I’ve learned that not all goals are created equal. Some are as fragile as shot glasses + will break with the slightest disturbance or pressure. If you write wishy-washy goals, you’ll get wishy-washy results + that’s not the kind of goal you want by your side.

 

You deserve nothing less than SMART goals (as Cameron Harold, author of Double Double, calls them). He provides a practical guide to turn crappy goals into SMART ones that goes like this:

  • S is for SHARED: The goal has to be shared with a coach + mentor + family member + friend + colleague or mastermind group. I go as far as sharing my goals with you, my messy gang. It’s a healthy kind of pressure. Accountability keeps me honest + on my tippy toes.
  • M is for MEASURABLE: The goal has to be quantifiable. If you can’t measure it, you can’t reach it. Put a number on it. Metrics help us evaluate if a goal is hit or missed. Hazy goals produce hazy results.
  • A is for ATTAINABLE: The goal, no matter how fearless, has to be reachable. You might not know exactly how you will do it, but you must know if it’s within the realm of possibility. The goal has to be at least remotely possible to be taken seriously by you.
  • R if for RELEVANT: The goals has to be yours + yours alone. Our souls have a bullsh*t-o-meter. It has a way of detecting when we’re picking people-pleasing goals over goals that make us happy, so ensure that you’re only working towards passion projects.
  • T is for TIME: The goal has to have a due date. If it doesn’t have a deadline, you will put it off forever + evah!

 

Now it’s your turn. Write down your SMART goal + imagine what it would be like to reach it!

 

Step 3:

PROCLAIM HOW YOU WANT TO FEEL

Setting up goals has a tendency to push us outward: “I want to make more money” + “I want people to respect me” + “I want my boyfriend to propose already.” This step is about bringing your goals back to basecamp: Your heart. The ultimate goal should always be to feel good, right? That’s because at your center you have what Danielle LaPorte calls “core desired feelings” – universal emotions you crave + make you feel like a goddess.

 

Get clear + I mean really clear about how you want to feel when you get out of bed + when you launch a product + when you step on to a stage + when your husband comes home + when you walk into a room + when you wear red lipstick + when you go shopping + when you’re looking at your bank account + when you reach your goals + when you _____________. Deep down inside, you know it. Well, write it down.

 

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Write it in stream of consciousness, because there is nothing more pure, more powerful to take you to the finish line than this. Hint: If you’re struggling to come up with your core desired feelings, take out a thesaurus + look up words + search the definition of words like happy + joyful + strong + confident + divine femininity. Pick your core desired feelings, so you can become an intentional creator of your life. This is about getting up everyday + asking yourself, “What am I gonna do today to generate these core desired feelings?”

 

Step 4:

STATE THE PURPOSE

In order to achieve anything, you must first answer the one question that matters most: Why? Why do you want to attain this particular goal? To reach the summit, you must know why attaining this goal is so important to you – not your neighbor, not your mentor, not your mom, but YOU. Why do you want this so badly? A goal without a supporting purpose will not stand the test of time or resist the smell of sugar-rich S’mores cookies.

 

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Step 5:

CONSIDER WHAT YOU’LL NEED

You have to equip yourself to reach your goals; otherwise, you’re not likely to give it your best effort. Being prepared is empowering + confidence-boosting. Do you need to teach yourself how to use Adobe Illustrator? Do you need a new camera + a perhaps a light box? What about a scanner? What tools + skills do you need? Write them all down.

 

Step 6:

SET BOUNDARIES

I know you want to catch your shiny star, but at what expense? Would you work 15 hours days? Would you skip weekends + vacations? Would you give up rights to your work at the expense of producing your line? Would you go into debt? Would you be willing to be on the road for a number of days? What won’t you do? What are your unbreakable core values? “No matter what” is a very dangerous phrase when it comes to your wholeness. Write your boundaries loud + clear.

 

Step 7:

MAKE IT ACTIONABLE

If you can’t measure it, you can’t reach it. Too often I see people set great goals for themselves, but they don’t take 5 minutes to think about what needs to happen in order to cross it out from the bucket list.

 

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When you’re planning a dinner party, for example, you must think about all the little pieces of the puzzle that must come together: invite guests + determine the seating + find out in advance if any guests have food allergies + set the color scheme + pick the caterer + set the menu + send RSVPs/invitations + choose the wine + make the playlist… everything.

 

What precisely needs to take place to get you to the finish line? Hint: The task must start with a verb + it must be so small that you can check it off relatively quickly from your list. It’s my secret to feel a sense of accomplishment + success + confidence to keep going.

 

A goal without a action plan is just a wish.

 

Step 8:

SET A DUE DATE

Without setting a completion date, it’s easy to find yourself pinning away your dream kitchen + sharpening your crayons + updating your Facebook status + finding the perfect Instagram filter or alphabetizing your DVD collection. Get real. Look at your goal + commit to a culminating date.

 

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Over-achiever alert: Be conscious of your lifestyle. If you’re getting married next month, don’t expect to give birth to an eight-week multimedia program over night.

 

Step 9:

REWARD YOURSELF

Positive reinforcement works. Period. An oriental massage + dinner at your favorite restaurant + new bed sheets + fresh flowers + red lipstick + aromatherapy candles + a Barnes & Noble shopping spree + new measuring cups from Anthropologie. How will you celebrate your milestones? Pick your prize. Plan out your bonuses; you’ll need them to carry you through infinity + beyond.

 

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Now it’s time to put this formula to good use.

 

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DO THIS NOW: Download your Goal Getter worksheet + fill it in following the nine-step plan. Be sure to share your findings in the comment section below for a chance to win cool prizes. Including a FREE membership to Life is Messy Bootcamp.

 

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Having Trouble Coming Up With SMART Goals?

Troubleshooting? Overwhelmed by everyone else’s bucket list. You don’t even know which dreams are yours + which are borrowed? Feeling utterly uninspired? The Goal Generator will help you quiet the noise + flesh out your twinkling desires hidden just beneath the surface. The categories will also spark all sort of new ideas – “I need to climb a mountain” + “I need to sign up for surfing lessons” + “I need to pick a launch date.” Let them flow. You’re Pink Panther on a mission to find your passion projects + your do-good expeditions + your mark on the world. Cue the music!

 

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Got your goal? Excellent.

 

DO THIS NOW: Download your Goal Generator + take it out for a spin. 

 

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For meltdown-control purposes focus on no more than three goals at a time. I know you’re perfectly capable of pulling all-nighters with or without coffee + can put on mascara while driving, but this is no time to show off your super woman skills. Stay humble.

 

Make It Stick

Somewhere along your Green Smoothie Challenge or your This Time Is For Realz Workout Regimen, your monkey brain will detour to Tiramisu Lane until further notice. Surely until Monday.

 

I said Monday, but I didn’t specify which Monday.

 

Good habits are darn hard to stick to, but breaking them only takes the smell of Cinnabon + the snooze button or a passive aggressive e-mail from a client. Been there? I’ve done that too. Not proud? I know, me neither.

 

The question is: Why? Why do we stop doing things we actually want to do? Good habits. Activities that make us feel freaking incredible. After consulting with behavioral experts like Ramit Sethi + Charles Duhigg + Jerry Seinfeld, I discovered why. Why some people manage to turn their best intentions into done deals, while others, well, eat an entire batch of Red Velvet cupcakes. The missing puzzle piece is forward momentum.

 

Forward momentum: To continue a chain of events without skipping a beat. A competition with yourself, if you will, to see how many days straight you can stick to your habit. It can be jogging + writing + painting + surfing + making videos. Your pick.

 

How? Glad you asked. Use your calendar of choice (ahem ahem if you’ve got my Life is Messy Planner kit you can use your Habit Tracker (best for short term challenges like a 21-Day Detox) or your Resolution Tracker (perfect for long term commitments, like quitting sugar or upping your surfing level). Hang your calendar on a prominent wall + with a colorful marker scribble an “X” on the days you nail it like a boss. After a few days, a chain will begin to form. Just keep at it. Your mission, if you choose to accept it, is to grow that chain longer + longer + longer everyday. It’s pretty simple if you think about it like a game. You save the process from Koopa Troopa when you don’t break the chain.

 

Here’s your cheat sheet:

  • A long line of Xs means party time. Excellent. 
  • Broken chain means it’s okay to have a nervous breakdown. Just don’t unpack + live there. Cry it out. Break an ugly flower vase. Call a friend who deserves to listen. Sure, have a shot of limoncello. Then remember why you started + make an epic come back. Sometimes a clean slate may be the best thing that ever happened to you.

 

I think you got it. Don’t break the chain!!!

 

Now, if for whatever reason, it doesn’t matter why, you skip a beat, bounce back unto the board game. Quickly. No one will even notice you were gone. It’ll be like you were stuck in Monopoly jail + missed a turn. Who cares? You have to go pee. No big deal. Speed bumps are expected. Healthy, even. A reputation of permanently missing in action is what’s dangerous.

 

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You would never leave a client waiting for you at the meeting place, would you? But somehow we miss our appointments with ourselves all the freaking time. What’s the deal? Well, it’s complicated. The thing about sticking with goals + habits + resolutions is this:

  • The first few days are the toughest ones. But I promise you it pays off to postpone a present pleasure for a future gain. Research shows that after 14 consecutive days, a forced routine turns into habit. That means that repetition forms habits. If you focus on consistency, you’ll win.
  • Relying on willpower to stick to your promises is a recipe for the Apocalypse as Amadeus hypothesized it. We have limited willpower. The more we use it, the less we have. So instead of expecting willpower to Fairy-Godmother you out of every pickle, you must habitualize big chunks of your day. Start by asking the Universe exactly what you want + make the uncompromisable decision the night before of how the next days will roll out. When you’re clear about what you want + get serious enough with yourself to craft an unbreakable commitment, resistance chickens out + bothers an easier target without a plan.
  • You are your best at your peak performance hours of the day, so make sure you’re not using up your daily supply of pixie with stalking Ryan Gosling on Instagram.
  • Habits have a ripple effect. You knock down one domino + all the others follow. All you need is ONE keystone action to unlock your chain. That’s why when you start working out it seems easier to eat clean. 
  • Believing you can do it is non-negotiable. You need to be your #1 Fan. If not you, who will?
  • You can trick your brain with cues to sustain a habit. For example: 
    • A time cue: Do your Insanity workout every day when the clock strikes 7. 
    • A place cue: Pick a spot to sit down + write your cookbook. Same desk. Same chair. Same ambiance music. 
    • A social cue: Trying to quit smoking? Schedule lunch with non-smoking friends. 
    • An emotional cue: When stressed + tempted to vacuum your entire fridge, have a fun movie ready to be watched that will help keep your mind off the wedding cake. 
    • A visual cue: Want to run the NY Marathon? Have your running shoes + workout clothes out, so you go from jammies to geared up champ in an instant. No brain cells required.

 

So, let’s recap. Instead of focusing on how the hell you’re gonna transform your dreams into reality or stick with your goals, channel your energy to playing, playing the game of chain building. Your challenge is to keep forward momentum going – in business + in relationships + in health + in learning. You can do it!

 

That’s it for today.

 

Tomorrow, I will show you how to cure mental constipation once in for all. Stay tuned!

 

Whether you decide to join us for an all new season of Life is Messy Bootcamp or not, I truly believe this 5-Day Life is Messy Challenge can transform your life + give you the basic framework you need to breakthrough + experience miracles this year + every single one after that.

 

If you have a friend, a loved one, looking to accomplish BIG things in 2015, it would mean the world if you could point them in this direction. THANK YOU for helping me spread the word with the fancy social media buttons below!

 

CLICK TO TWEET: A 9-Step Formula to Transform Your Dreams into Reality(comes with FREE printables). Get it here – http://bit.ly/1wZROxG via @mayicarles

 

See you mañana.

 

xo,

Mayi Carles

 

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Day 2 of The 5-Day Life is Messy Challenge: Clarify Your Vision

Part 2

 

Things rarely get stuck because lack of time or lack of talent. They get stuck because of lack of clarity.

 

Do you remember that scene from Alice in Wonderland where Alice comes to a fork in the road?

 

“Which road do I take?”, she asked.

 

“Where do you want to go?” responded the Cheshire cat.

 

“I don’t know”, Alice answered.

 

“Then”, said the cat, “it doesn’t matter.”

 

If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there. Including the one with a stop at Azkaban.

 

Too often I see people complain about not being lucky enough or whining about the economy being at fault for all their troubles, when all along the real root of their misfortunes is a problem with their inner compass.

 

Over the years, I’ve worked with thousands of ambitious entrepreneurs. Of course, they’ve all wanted a lot of different things – everything from more time + more exposure + more money + more subscribers + more magazine features, but underneath it all, they all wanted the same thing: to be happy.

 

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It’s a universal desire + the real reason why I know you are here too. The good news is: I can help, not because I’m a magician or a unicorn (pfff I wish I was a unicorn), but because happiness is your birth right.

 

You are biologically + cognitively + physically + spiritually wired to be happy. But when you choose to blind fold yourself + navigate through life without a compass, winging every move, you break. You fall more times that you need to. You numb to take the edge off. You get sick. You hurt others. You hurt yourself. Everyone loses.

 

The way I see it is this, you have two options:

  • Option #1: You can either wait for the Illuminati to crown you worthy of love + belonging + a tight ass or,
  • Option #2: You can get a head start by picking yourself + creating a detailed vision of what you really really want. I’m taking about a vision board + an inspirational roadmap + a MEMO to yourself saying: “Look girlfriend, this is what I want my life + my business to be like.”

 

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Our intentions have the power to map out the course ahead either to lead our ship to treasure chest or to sink it. They choice is always within us.

 

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So how do you create clear vision? A roadmap? A lighthouse that will guide you when it gets dark? Easy. First, ask yourself these key questions:

  • When you peek into the future, what do you see?
  • When you peek into the future, what do you want there?
  • When you peek into the future, what materializes in your imagination as the epitome of success?

 

Don’t worry about how you’re going to build it, just focus on describing what you see + what you want there + what utter bliss looks like to you.

 

Then, pretend you have a time machine that let’s you visit the you of 1 year from now, 3 years from now, 5 years from now…

  • What do you find?
  • How are you feeling?
  • What are people saying about you?
  • What pictures are you posting on Instagram?
  • Who are you sharing this dream with?
  • What have you stopped doing?
  • What’s your morning ritual like?
  • What do you do for a living?
  • How much money are you making?
  • How much are you giving away?
  • How are your core values being realized?

 

Sit down with pen + paper. Do a stream-of-consciousness riff. Concepts. Words. Feelings. Images. Fill in the gaps. Jot it all down.

 

This exercise isn’t meant to look pretty, it’s meant to evoke.

 

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Having a Hard Time Clarifying Your Vision?

Need a hand? No problem!

 

Here are some troubleshooting ideas that might help:

  • Pretend you’re a movie director. Literarily script this as a film – each scene + each set + each plot + the costumes + even the soundtrack. The story has to come to life. Write the movie storyboard you want to be the protagonist for.
  • Play the “Wouldn’t It Be So Cool If…” Game. Take a deep breath. Let your mind run loose. Think about all the abundance that’s possible. Finish this sentence: Wouldn’t it be so cool if…
  • Don’t get caught up in the how of things. Instead, focus on the what + dream bigger. Leave the how to Google. Like my mentor Marie Forleo says, “Everything is figureoutable.” Now, having said that, keep your vision within the confines of space + time. Let your imagination + idealism unfurl, but save grossly impractical things, such as “I wanna win the lottery + be Beyonce,” for another time.
  • Get in the mood. When sitting down to write your roadmap, make yourself some tea + put on the Lord of The Rings score + light up some aromatherapy candles + take a hot shower + put on your comfiest pajamas (and your fluffy socks too, if you’d like) or whatever. Do what you must to free yourself of the day-to-day unproductive preoccupations + visualize your future masterpiece. If you’re still feeling  uninspired, get out of your sweatpants (how did I know you where wearing sweatpants you ask? I may or may not be a wizard who’s gonna buy herself a wand when I go to the Wizarding World of Harry Potter + then I will go on a quest to take down the owl that forgot to give me my Hogwarts acceptance letter #accio). So, as I was saying, put on real clothes (sure yoga pants count) + leave the house. Go somewhere you can let your mind wander free. I wrote my vision for the future at the beach, in a hammock. Cheesy, but highly effective.
  • Close all your tabs + step away from the screens. For the love of all things holy, turn off your computer + all electronic gadgets while attempting this mission. No matter how much willpower you have, the temptation of e-mail-checking + web “researching” will be there.
  • No shrinking. This is no time for limiting beliefs + party-pooping or mind-numbing. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. Gosh, you’re writing your future autobiography. Anything less than outlandishly epic is plain silly.
  • Pinterest can help. Pinterest makes it easy to collect online research + ideas in one place on virtual bulletin boards, called pin boards, where you can “pin” images that you love for safe keeping. It’s a great resource to visually document, not only who you are, but what you want to be. You can even make your boards private if you want to. See how I do it right here.

 

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Set Yourself Up For Success

Here are a few of my recommendations to help you bring your vision to reality through small, but mighty powerful changes:

  • As soon as you wake up, do something that makes you feel loved. Did you know that a good morning kiss can help prevent against stress-related illnesses + it triggers hormones that help a person deal with pressure? Well, David takes good care of me, I’ll say that much, which makes me feel like the luckiest woman in the planet. Start your day off on the right foot whether it’s cuddling + journaling, meditating or brewing yourself some coffee. You decide.
  • Buy the best food money can afford. If there is one area of your life you shouldn’t be cheap with is your food. I might not have the newest BMW parked in my garage, but I invest in organic strawberries + fresh figs + premium coffee + artesanal honey + gourmet jams. You can’t tell yourself that you deserve the best + then eat at McDonalds. If you can’t afford the best quality food across the board, pick one item or class or items where you’ll always but the best there is. Maybe you always buy organic eggs. Start sending your brain the message that it deserves + receives the best.
  • Cultivate an environment that feels aligned with your vision board.  A manifesting sanctuary if you will. Put up words + pictures that condition your mind to attract what you most desire. Place these keywords + visuals within your visual field so you can see them frequently, ideally someplace where you will be processing them continuously for many hours each day. Just be careful not to create too much visual clutter in such a way that could prime you for thoughts like clutter + confusion. Sure you have my permission to buy yourself an inspirational poster today (wink wink).
  • Clean the clutter. Chaos only attracts more chaos + confusion. Keep your spaces neat + tidy. It’s efficient. It’s a delight to work when there is space to breath + think. Give yourself room, the million dollar ideas will come next.
  • Hire freaking professionals. Last year, not so voluntarily, I ceased my need to control everything + do it all myself + micro-manage. I stopped hiring kids, which at the time I felt was all I could afford. But cheap, ladies + gentz, comes at a high price. You get sick. You end up having to babysit, a lot. You don’t get the job done right. You end up having to hire a pro to fix the damage. Makes sense to save yourself the messy middle + go straight to the best, doesn’t it?
  • Go on the Toxic People Diet. Have the courage to fire every whiny + pessimistic + energy sucking person in my life who is dimming your glittery eyes. They say you are the compendium of the 5 people you spend your most time with, so choose right my friend.
  • Dress the part. And by dressing the part I don’t mean wear a tiara to attract wealth. I mean thinking about the influence your clothes have on your mood. What makes you feel confident when you’re chatting with a client or having lunch with a colleague? I’m writing this while wearing stretchy pants + a cute yoga tank top. Could you tell? Does that make me feel unprofessional? No! It makes me feel comfortable + authentic + ready to do my pre-natal yoga as soon as I’m done with work. All I’m asking is for you to give your wardrobe some thought + attention. I know I feel invincible when I wear a double coat of mascara + my red Chanel lipstick. The only way to know for sure what works for you is to test.

 

I know that many of these changes may seem trivial. Are they actually worth doing? The answer is yes. But don’t just take my word for it. Try it for yourself. See what happens. These are such simple + easy changes to make that testing them is very low risk. I think you’ll be pleased, even surprised, with the result

 

So are you ready to not skip today’s challenge? This is single handedly the most powerful assignment you can do for the present + future + you deserve nothing less than fantastic.

 

DO THIS NOW: Create a vision that makes you excited to jump out of bed in the morning. Be sure to share your findings in the comment section below for a chance to win cool prizes.

 

When complete, this map will become your culture, your mantra. It will inform your decisions + help guide your team, even if your team is you + your little puppy Toto.

 

Heads up: You will be tempted to skim through this lesson because it’s almost too easy + too simple, and you think you already know what you want + how you want your future to look like. It’s probably in your head somewhere, you think. No wonder you’ve got mental constipation + sometimes you can’t put yourself to sleep.

 

But here’s the thing, too many people create a meaningful vision for what they want their life + business to look like, but very few really take the time to pause + consider the full picture.

 

Money

 

For example, if you’re aiming to triple your income in 2015:

  • What will that look like?
  • How many people will you need on board?
  • Will you still be able to work from your home studio?
  • Will you need to travel more?
  • Will you be home in time for super?
  • Will you be able to leave the office early on Fridays?

 

By the way, being clear on your financial goals is not enough. Telling yourself “I’m attracting mucho dinero” will not work if you then go + fill your brain with loser thoughts of scarcity + lack + laziness by using your old toothbrush that should have been replaced months ago + checking a cluttered e-mail inbox on a frustratingly slow computer running pirated software + drinking cheap tea from an ugly hand-me-down mug.

 

Doesn’t work like that folks!

 

Your actions need to be coherent with your dreams. Do you give yourself the experience? Or do you deny yourself that experience? What associations do your choices trigger? Do you feel lucky + grateful + on your way to the top? Or do you feel cheap + frustrated + unworthy? Think about it.

 

Boda Mayi Carles

 

I confess I used to hate this exercise. B-O-R-I-N-G! I’m that girl who buys a $750 Breville Juicer, but has no time to read the instructions. I want to make a Banana Colada, IMMEDIATELY! But I learned to love this exercise when I had to plan my handmade wedding in just three months. Three months. I spent the first two weeks looking at wedding blogs + Pinterest boards + Martha Stewart magazines. Then, I played the “Wouldn’t It Be So Cool If…” Game. I stopped, looked at my budget + created a full color vision of what I wanted:

  • I want to wear a Spanish dress. I want to feel like a Flamenco dancer.
  • I want to skip the family tiara. I’ll look like Fiona. I want a big handmade flower on the side of my head instead.
  • I want the ballroom to feel like a garden, not a conference room. Plants + candles everywhere.
  • I want cupcakes. Lots + lots of cupcakes.
  • I don’t want sushi.
  • I want the YMCA song banned from the music list.
  • I want Michael Jackson .
  • I want lots of party props. Everyone.

 

I knew exactly what I wanted + what I didn’t want. That saved me time + energy + Bridezilla moments + helped me create the happiest memories of my life. And I didn’t fight with David one single day of the planning or with my mom or my mother in law + I am absolutely sure it was because we all had a map of what we were creating, TOGETHER.

 

And have you ever observed an athlete right before a competition? They use focus + visualization to manifest before their eyes their desired results. By imagining the journey + it’s obstacles before they unfold, they prepare themselves mentally + physically for the challenge.

 

Take note. Learn from the pros.

 

That’s it for today.

 

Tomorrow, I will show you how to transform your dreams into reality. Stay tuned!

 

Whether you decide to join us for an all new season of Life is Messy Bootcamp or not, I truly believe this 5-Day Life is Messy Challenge can transform your life + give you the basic framework you need to breakthrough + experience miracles this year + every single one after that.

 

If you have a friend, a loved one, looking to accomplish BIG things in 2015, it would mean the world if you could point them in this direction. THANK YOU for helping me spread the word with the fancy social media buttons below!

 

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See you mañana.

 

xo,

Mayi Carles

 

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