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Turning Life’s Messes into Creative Triumphs

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This is a very special post. But! Before diving in, I really think you will dig the back story.

 

Let’s rewind to 2011 for just a second.

 

I was drinking spa water + wearing stretchy pants + listening to my girl April Bowles-Olin’s interview on BlogcastFM. And I remember thinking to myself, “Damn, my friend is wicked smart. How does she do it?”

 

“How does she do what?”, you may be asking.

 

“How does she NAIL IT every freaking time?”, I mean.

 

We all have that perfect friend + colleague + sister + relative. That person in our lives who seems to have it all figured out.

 

It’s tempting to stay there. In admiration land. Just gazing in utter awe from the sidelines of the ring. Clapping. Hercules, Herculeeeeez. Eating popcorn. Getting fat.

 

But! I’ve never really liked the cheap seats anyways. Or expanding my waistline with fear calories. The worst kind.

 

So…

 

Half intimidated by April’s ability to answer every question so eloquently, half inspired by her courage to put herself on the line like a BOSS, I decided to get over myself + e-mail the podcast host, Srinivas Rao.

I basically waved my hands real high up in the air + exclaimed: “Pick me! Pick me too!”

 

Yeap. I literally invited myself to someone else’s party. Who does that? Apparently, me.

 

That year, my little interview slowly made its way to the “Best of 2011” list, alongside Danielle LaPorte + Seth Godin + Tim Ferris + Ramit Sethi. It became the most watched + most clicked + most shared + most downloaded episode of the year.

 

And there I was, sitting on the top of my #1 hit single. Feeling like I had just won a Grammy. For showing up. For trying. For channeling my inner April, the most badass girl boss I know, and realizing, “Hey! Maybe I have something to say too.”

 

Fast forward to present times.

 

Srini knocks on my inbox. Invites me for a second interview.

 

“It’s been quite some time since we’ve spoken. Our brand is totally different. In fact so much so that I think our audience would love you even more now. And of course I’ve done about 300 interviews since you last spoke with me so I’ve gotten better at it. Would you be up for a second interview? Would love to have you back.”

 

I wanted to throw up.

 

Cuz that’s what we do, right? Flake. Duck. Get sick.

 

The first time around I had nothing to lose. I was no one.

 

This time, I felt everything was on the line. My shiny crown with the invisible #1 on it. I didn’t want to give that up, you know? My prestige. My recognition. My badge of honor.

 

“Go away Srini!” That’s what I wanted to say. So I said “Yes” instead.

 

Cuz isn’t that the ultimate goal? Commit to the act of showing up, in spite of being afraid? Dare greatly, before we feel ready?

 

It’s tough. But so am I. So are we.

 

So without further ado…

 

Here I am. Back. Talking about how to turn life’s messes into stories of triumph.

 

Check-Out-My-Interview

 

Highlights:

  • Letting go of the fear that nobody will show up.
  • Putting ourselves out there.
  • Dealing with unwritten cultural dogmas.
  • The tensions between what we want + what’s expected.
  • Why we need at least one biggest fan.
  • The rocks that life puts in our journey.
  • Embracing screw ups as part of the creative process.

 

Click here to check out my interview on the Unmistakable Creative podcast!

 

I’m not sure if I’ll be able to beat my own record, but if I don’t at least I’ll have the perfect story for Oprah.

 

Enjoy!

 

xo,

Mayi Carles

 

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8 Responses to Turning Life’s Messes into Creative Triumphs

  • Magdalena says:

    Hola Mayi,

    Me encantó tu entrevista, estuvo genial. Me gustaría saber si tienes algún link a la primera entrevista, porque es en ese punto donde creo que estoy!!! Cariños y gracias por ser tan genial.

  • Jen says:

    I loved listening to more of your story Mayi! I loved that you brought up how important it was to have your husband by your side all along, even before he was your husband. I would have given up multiple times if my husband hadn’t been here cheering me on, they are the best!

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  • ClosetDelights says:

    Dear Mayi, I cried when I was listening to your podcast BUT I wasn’t sad! THANK YOU for sharing your story. It not only inspired me but it reassured me that I am right where I should be – a messy imperfect place but I’m still moving forward because I can only be true to myself and the truth is, I simply want to do this – make my journey – regardless of where I’ll end up.

    It’s so hard to believe that anyone could not like you!

    Just before listening to the podcast, I was just speaking to my friend about “you”, the online website “you” that I had access to and I was raving on and on about how gorgeous you are, intelligent, handsome husband, cute baby, talented, successful business owner, etc………… and after this podcast…….. also so beautifully human. Same doubts, challenges, pains, etc.

    It helped me so much to HEAR all of it – it’s ok for me to feel overwhelmed, exhausted, crazy, stubborn, difficult, different, quirky, doubtful, passionate, curious, simply following what I believe I can do even though I haven’t done it yet, crazy happy and crazy sad at times. To summarize, it’s ok to be me.

    Simply, THANK YOU.

  • Leslie says:

    LOVED the interview!! I listened to it at 4am today while lying in bed with insomnia. I half-hoped it would help me get back to sleep, but it definitely did not! So inspiring! Absolutely gripping. The way you talk about all the messes and imperfections in life, how you turned loss into creative fuel, how David supported you every step of the way… I first started following you many years ago, but hadn’t heard your voice in a while. THANK YOU! After hearing this I have to have a copy of your cookbook too. What a backstory!! 🙂

    • Mayi Carles says:

      Awwww Leslie you are solo sweet. Your comment was the kick in the pants I needed to get myself out there again, in podcasts + videos. I also miss talking. Writing has never been my forté!

      Thanks for making me feel loved and appreciated.

      Life is Messy Kitchen can be found here: http://www.lifeismessykitchen.com (I know I will be tempted to add a little something special to your parcel hehehehehehe)

      • Leslie says:

        YAY! Order placed. Can’t wait to read it. I stopped cooking for a while (a bit of personal drama reminded me that I can choose how to spend my time… I can choose! Sometimes I forget that…) but in the past week or so I’ve been cooking a lot more! So I’m looking forward to some colorful new ideas. MUCHAS GRACIAS!!! 🙂

  • Jenn Taylor says:

    Thanks so much for your open and honest Podcast with Siri. I believe that’s how I found you a few years ago, and have been a follower ever since.

    While the entire interview was raw and honest, I especially love what you had to say about how everything is so Pinterest perfect these days, which makes every feel so unattainable, yet we need to make a movement to show the imperfections in our social media feeds.

    Thank you for all that you do,and for sharing your story, your videos, and awesome content.

    Wishing you, and your beautiful family all the best.

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