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Vlogging 101: How I Found My Voice – The Story I Thought I’d Never Share


Once upon a time, not that long ago actually, in a galaxy not that far far away, there was a girl, let’s call her Mayi, who watched too much Pinky in the Brain when she was little + quickly developed acute world domination aspirations. But no superhero cape or shiny career diploma would prepare Mayi for the stiff opposition she would encounter of her way to Mount Everest, filled with hairy monsters + vicious beats + tsunamic blizzards, oh my!


I’ve been wanting to tell you the full story for so long, but I just couldn’t up until now, in spite of my heart palpitations going into cardiac arrest, because I honestly believe that by sharing I can shine light at some life-changing issues that might be surfacing at this stage of your video blogging journey.


Hit play to watch what happened.


Oh + please do forgive my unmake-uped face + messy hairdo + unflattering wardrobe. I literally pressed the record button when I felt a sudden urge to let it all out, from my heart to yours. True tale. Today’s Friday Video Time episode is completely unscripted + totally unprepared. It’s the most vulnerable I’ve ever gotten, ever!



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49 Responses to Vlogging 101: How I Found My Voice – The Story I Thought I’d Never Share

  • Gabriella says:

    WOW! Wonderful lesson here for so many aspects of our lives, whether we vlog or not! I think I’m learning to find my voice by just not being afraid to SPEAK what I think! I love how supportive your husband is! Keep these videos coming. What would we do without them?

  • Tessa says:

    Thank you so much for sharing your story with us, Mayi! Your video was so touching and heartfelt, and it really struck a chord with me since I have been thinking a lot about starting to vlog regularly and the barriers in my way of doing that. Thanks for making me think and inspiring me to take action and go for my dreams! Keep doing what you are doing!! πŸ™‚

  • Michelle Ainslie says:

    WOW WOW WOW! What an absolutely awesome video Mayi!
    Thank you so much for being so open and honest. I, for one, could not survive without my weekly dose of Friday Video Time so I am sooo happy you didn’t listen to the haters! You are super inspiring and I just love, love, love your work.
    Today’s video was so motivational – because like you said, we all start at the beginning. We all start with one subscriber and one video. Seeing how far you have come shows me that I can do it too. And for the record, I think your first video was really, really cute!
    I love your last question: What price are you willing to pay to not listen to your calling?
    Let’s rock this thing. We have so much to give and there are millions who need what we have.

  • Jessika Hepburn says:

    You are so magical Mayi! This video is so brave and beautiful, just like you. It broke my heart a little to hear about the small minded meanness you had to push past to shine so brightly for us. Your story is proof that being true to yourself and your voice calls the community and support you need to you & makes the haters look pretty stupid in the end. It also adds a whole new depth to your videos!

    They might throw tomatoes at you lovely, but you’ll whip up something delicious, and serve it back to them with a smile. That takes true heart, bravery and vulnerability. I have never been so thankful to know you-the world is lucky to have you!!!!

    Thank you for being so open with us and letting us into your life! The world needs more silliness + cupcakes + big glasses + a willingness to laugh at ourselves. I adore you:)

  • April says:

    Love David’s special appearance at the end.

    Oh my gosh…I’m remember when you were struggling with this and I told you that you better not stop your Friday videos or else I was gonna come after you!!!

    I think it’s awesome that you shared this experience, because I bet a lot of people struggle with the “what will other people think” thoughts. You rock!

  • Francesca says:

    Mayi, this is really and incredible vlog. I love the whole background+props extravaganza, but today you really went a step further. Thank you so much for sharing…

  • Erika says:

    Thank you for sharing mayi! Although some of us haven’t thought of doing video blog in the short time, you bring us inspiration to do what we have in mind. In my case, it helps me lighten the impact of the voices of the people that surrounds me, that even though they support my decisions and ambition to start my business, they manage always to highlight the bad things, the problems, that sometimes makes me just want to give up!
    There will always be heaters and envy, but here we are a really good number of lovers that need a leader, a coach, that need someone that helps us through our own journey to shine-town! πŸ™‚

  • April says:

    I love your honesty. You are truly inspiring and I’m glad you didn’t stop.

  • Lisa says:

    It’s hard to imagine that you have haters, but I’m really happy you shared it! I like to think that I am the only one who lives in a small community where no one else understands why I do what I do- but in reality I think we all are. You are a big inspiration to me, and what I am doing to find my voice? Well for starters I have to get my brain back on track. I mean that I’ve been living in a haze of unwellness. That doesn’t help to get ideas, so as I get better, I get better at focusing on my work. I started exercising again! And I think I wouldn’t have if it wasn’t for your happy pill video πŸ˜‰

  • April Starr says:

    Oh, wow, Mayi! I’m so sorry that those people were saying those things … gossip is so destructive! But I’m so glad you kept going and kept making your videos! Thanks for sharing your story and encouraging us. πŸ™‚

    And I’m so thankful for this whole series you’ve been doing! I filmed my first vlog on Wednesday, I’ve done all the editing and everything and it’s ready to go up on Monday. Eek! Yeah, I guess the first video will never be that great, but I’m glad to have actually done it, and I thank you so much for your help! My current weight is something I’m definitely self conscious about… that, and not knowing what people will think. But I figure, while I definitely want to lose weight, people see me all the time in real life right now, so why not on video? And if my videos are not up their alley, they don’t have to watch them, haha πŸ™‚

    I loved the appearance of your husband there at the end! πŸ˜€ It gave me a chuckle and reminds me SO much of how Tim and I are, haha! Me: “Do you like it? Do you like it??” haha
    I have been really thankful for his encouragement as I’ve decided to give vlogging a try. πŸ™‚

    I have one kind of technical question as I’m trying to get my vlog post ready for Monday – I’ve been trying to figure out where is best to host my videos. I was planning to use Vimeo but I guess I would have to upgrade to Pro if its for commercial use? Where/how do you host your videos, if you don’t mind me asking?

    Thanks for sharing this story with us, Mayi! πŸ˜€

  • Jacolien says:

    Oh my, Mayi! Thank you so much for sharing your story. And thank you for not giving up in times of doubt and being hurt!
    I’m currently struggling with myself and my ambitions. I have a blog and I’m about to open a little webshop. But what is my blog really about, what are the things I wanna sell about? What is it that I should share my creativity online? Is my life worth sharing? Why do I think I could own a place in the midst of many great bloggers and creative sellers?
    And most of all. My family and friends know about my blog and shop-ambitions, but none of them realy support me or believe in my plans. Do I even believe in myself?

    Sorry if this sounds a little depressing. I guess I just have to go on and show the world who I am and show my family that I won’t give up and show what I’m made of. (although that’s though to do…)

    Anywho, thnx for everything Mayi. You’re a great inspiration and a great source to go to for help on blogging and stuff!

  • Barbra Ignatiev says:

    Hehe I like the last part. Reminds me of me and my hubs. “Do you like my videos? Huuhhh?” “YES! Gosh!”

    Love these videos, Mayi. They come at the perfect time. I feel like I’ve been doing videos for a while, but still am new and trying to find a voice. I like your advice to listen to your viewers ~ absolutely what I’ve realized and am trying to incorporate. Editing today and trying to also not take myself so seriously. Just getting vlogs out there and moving on to the next is good enough. I know I’ll eventually get better.

    Congrats on so many vlogs! You and others have inspired me to keep going and sharing myself with the world. Yay for that!

  • Kimberly Palmer says:

    This is exactly what I needed to hear today, after an oh-so-very humbling experience recently – thank you so much! I love it when people who look they they have it all together share some challenges along the way – helps me realize my own fumbles are okay, too πŸ™‚

  • Tania Wojciechowski says:

    Mayi, thank you so much for posting this! I never tire of hearing how people struggle to find their voice, and how they stand so strong once they have found it.

    You continue to be an inspiration to everyone around you – thank you so much for that!

  • Ash P says:

    Wow, thanks for sharing and for continuing. I wouldn’t have ever found you if you had stopped doing what you’re doing.

    Success never came to those who sat back and did nothing! I’m sure right now you’re laughing at them all the way to the bank…lol!

    You make me want to start video blogging my crafts πŸ™‚ Right now I’m just getting started with my blog but I hope to get my first video done by the end of the year πŸ™‚

  • Hillary says:

    Thank you thank you thank you, Mayi. You’re beautiful and you shine. Today you’ve inspired me to take a step forward instead of continuing to spin in a vortex of indecision!

  • Julianne M. says:

    Thank you, Thank you for sharing! I’m sad to hear how small minded people would act so vicious and cruel, but I am so happy you did not give up because I sooo look forward to your Friday Video Time!! Finding my voice is something I am currently struggling with, so your words of encouragement really hit home. Keep on rockin’ at these vlogging videos!! You are an inspiration to all and it is the highlight of my day when I am at work!!

  • Leslie says:

    I love it. Thank you!! I can identify with so much of what you’re saying. I also live in a fairly conservative place (Chile) with specific expectations for what it means to be a professional and I am continually working to find my voice. I’ve also spent most of the day transcribing a video interview I did, and this is the perfect opportunity to scrutinize how I look on video (like, why do I keep frowning while the other person is talking? Why do I look so miserable? Do I always look like that when I talk?) But at the same time, I see the value in what I have to say, and I have lots of ideas about how to make better videos in the future. Keep up the good work!

  • Kin says:

    Baby, baby I love your Friday video time too! And now I’m crushing on you more than ever because you shared your struggles with us! After having recently filmed and edited episode1 of my video blog I am hoping my blogs 101st one will be half as amazing as any of yours! No matter where we all go with our vlogging empires I know that each one of us will look back on the journey we are taking with much love and heartfelt appreciation for you Mayi and Friday video time!

  • Stephenie Zamora says:

    I LOVE LOVE LOVE your Friday videos Mayi! Oh my gosh, I remember your first video and I thought it was perfectly fine! Of course now I see the difference in your energy levels and your personality definitely shines through more now which is awesome. πŸ™‚ For me, I spend four years blogging anonymously trying to find my voice while I was trying to find myself and my passion. When I first started blogging under my real name I was TERRIFIED of people finding me and what they would think. The most rewarding thing I hear is people thanking me for sharing my mind. It was something I worked so hard to hide so I could “fit in” with everyone else. It’s such a journey and I’m so grateful that you shared this video with us today! xo

  • jojoebi says:

    thank you for being so frank and honest, showing or weak side in public is an incredibly difficult thing to do.

  • Dominika says:

    Hi May! I’m following you from Qatar and I believe you have lots of followers from all around the world and 25 drunk people from Panama are not worth to worry about πŸ™‚ Just keep on going with what you are doing you are the best!!!!! xoxo Dominika

  • Cathy says:


    I’m out of words! You totally rocked it girl!
    Your story really is an inspiration and your strengh and example to be followed! And you know what? Being brave enough to oppenly share this only makes those haters look ever more silly! πŸ˜‰
    Anyway, I don’t really think you have to care about them or others like them even if they still make fun of your videos. Have you seen the ammount of people who love them? πŸ˜‰
    Congrats on the 101 vlogs and please keep it up for us to follow! πŸ˜‰

  • shelia says:

    Great vblog Mayi! I am proud that you continued down this path and found your voice. You are doing great things and not letting others keep you down is SO important! Thanks for sharing.

  • Aimee's Simple Living for Busy People says:

    THANK YOU, M, for your transparency and authenticity, Mayi — and for sharing your story with us! Obviously, we can all relate to that paralyzing fear!

    What have I done to find my voice? I am not at video blogging yet (tech hold ups ….argh!), so I write true stories in my blog, in the way that I talk (which is kinda how you express yourself, I have come to believe). And then in my newsletter, I talk to my followers in the way that I would help them along the way. This way, if they decided to work with me in the future, they know what they’re getting, right?

    But it’s not easy! It is scary some times — but I know that I have to push through the fear — in order to be transparent to my potential clients, to be true to myself, and to feel good at the end of the day!

  • haroulla says:

    Mayi, you truly are an inspiration to all of us. Thank you for being strong, for being YOU and for sharing this with us.

    Here’s to another 101 vlogs!


  • Amber Ravenscroft says:

    I really enjoyed that Mayi, it was really touching. Although I don’t think I’ll ever do vlogging as I’m not beautifully photogenic like you, it was helpful just thinking about the internet in general – the thought of all those people out there, some of whom do not or will not like you (or even hate you, agh!) is really scary sometimes but if I ever get to a point where I feel almost too scared to carry on I will try to remember this video. πŸ˜‰ thanks

  • Ana Sol says:

    wow, you are very brave by sharing this, your personal experience! It touch me deeply specially when you said “what price are you willing to pay for not following your voice”… it moved me in a deep and weird way… I am one step away of following my own truth but I don’t know why I am still afraid of taking “the step”… but when I hear things like this and find people like you I know I am closer, I know I can do it too and I now that it is worth it…
    thank you Mayi.

  • mayicarles says:

    I’ve been holding my tongue this time around to allow your comments to shine through. But OMG my heart it exploding + I just had to make a sneak peek appearance to tell you how much a truly appreciate your LOVE + SUPPORT. I would not be hear if it weren’t for the million little ways you make me feel special + important.

    THANK YOU. THANK YOU for sharing this messy roller coaster ride with me!

    I have read + re-read all of your comments a gazillion times + I want to tattoo them to my tiny heart πŸ™‚

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  • Kagan G. Byron says:

    I’ve been away on a little getaway of my own so I missed this the day it posted and now I’m late leaving a comment.

    Having experienced the pain of others viciousness myself I relate so much to what you’ve shared. It sort of stops you in your tracks, doesn’t it? For me it’s caused a lot of holding back. Your story, your courage and support make me feel even more encouraged and motivated to change that.

    How have I worked to find my voice? I’ve learned to tune a lot out. I don’t indulge in a lot of blog reading or spend time comparing myself to others. I try to focus on my own thing and allow it to be what it is, difficult as that can be. Over and over I’ve learned that we only lose by holding back but we never lose by giving. That’s why your story today means so much because it’s another reminder.

    I am so grateful that you didn’t let those 25 people dim your shine. Your light is one I look forward to seeing and I know I’m not alone! Thank you for your great work with this Vlogging series it is just what I needed. I look forward to posting something soon!

    All the best Mayi, you’re amazing! xO

  • Kim Sujo says:

    Mayi! WOW!!!! Amazing story…You’re so brave to share it with us! I’m especially happy that you broke through that awful situation and came out shining on the other side, otherwise we wouldn’t have or Friday videos to end our creative weeks!!!

    I can tell you that from the moment I found your blog thanks to the awesome April Bowles, I was HOOKED! And let me tell you that I have a very different personality and I’m not as awesomely bubbly as you, but I never ever judged and found it SOOO refreshing to see someone so willing to be herself and to never apologize for it! I can even say that is probably what makes me keep coming back. I’ve always told my friends that those who talk about you or have strong opinions about you or gossip, are going to do it no matter what you do. There’s just no winning with them! So if there’s no winning, why on Earth would you not do what you love. I’ve just started vlogging and you’ve been a HUGE inspiration even though my videos are of a completely different nature. Keep at it girl! You’ve got a huge and ever growing fan base that will be forever loyal to you and your products. I know I will!! CONGRATS!!!!

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  • Jenelle @ TrashN2Tees says:

    Mayi, getting myself acquainted with your vblogging 101 series – your blog- and most importantly you! has been on my list of things to do for a few weeks now. I finally made my way over here in the wee hours of this morning. What a firecracker treat!

    Thank you so much for opening up & spilling your beautiful guts on video. Thank you letting me know its okay to go unscripted & get outside the box. Thank you for your inspiration. Thank you for helping me to find my voice- and my on my journey to SPARK & becoming a human sparkler.

  • Yolanda Gurule says:

    Wow, this is so true about how there are people who are so insecure with themselves that they want to see others fail + they can’t be happy for others. In my own life I have my little circle of cheerleaders who encourage me and support what I’m doing. then there’s the other people, maybe family or supposed to be friends who never really get it and instead of building you up with compliments they criticize and critique in mean but nice ways. At times I get discouraged and want to through in towel and go back to my day job but then I wouldn’t be ok with that inside and I wouldn’t be able to be at home with my little girl. So, Thanks so much for your inspiring word and for sharing your story. It really made me think about my little handmade business and gives me motivation to not doubt who I am and who I want to be πŸ™‚

  • Angela says:

    I can’t believe that someone could say something bad about you! I can’t believe how could anyone not like you! You are so positive and so full of energy.
    Well, haters are going to hate and it’s so brave that you’ve shared that. I don’t know what I would do in such a situation but it seems that you’ve stand tall and above all this ( I’m sure it wasn’t easy, but you’ve pulled it through!)The important thing is that you have the love and support of the people that matter the most in your life (and David is SURELY one of them!)
    Keep going Mayi and don’t think -even for a second- what others might think. You are doing an AMAZING job! You help and inspire others in so many ways. You surely have changed my life and helped me grow in so many ways.
    I LOVE your Friday videos and I wouldn’t change anything about them because they always make my day!
    Warm Hugs and Kisses1 XOXO πŸ™‚

  • Cheryl Chavarria says:

    Thank you for sharing your story, Mayi. It brought tears to my eyes and a huge smile to my face. You’re very special and an inspiration.

    I push past my own concern over what others will think of me and my work, of my own thoughts about what I blog about (I haven’t done a vlog in a year!) and holding back because I worry about someone’s “eye” and judgment on me, yet I keep writing and sharing.

    I work every day to find my voice, so thanks again for letting me see that it will happen for me, because it happened for you.

  • Nathalie says:

    Mayi, I’ve listen to a person a few years ago. This person instead of giving me the little push foward that I needed got in my head and discouraged me. I was doing what I love. I disided a few months back that life his to short and to get back into my passion and live happy !!!
    Thank’s for all your vlogs, I really enjoy your energy and advices.
    Each time I listen to your videos it gives me some courage to go foward !!!

  • Cris:Gladly says:

    Actually Mayi … you are becoming one of the few online voices I actually trust. We’re in B-school together and I love the Babes, but I LOVE that you have gifted this serious of videos about vlogging b/c I KNOW that’s a step I need to take professionally and I have been holding back epically b/c of so many insecurities about putting my face out there. You are SO motivating me to challenge myself and learn how to do this.

    Absolutely adore who you are and how you show up for yourself and your business. Keep being you! And keep counting out pinkie first!! πŸ™‚ lol!!!

  • Davina says:

    Mayi! Thank you so much for your encouragement and these awesome Friday tips for vlogging. I’ve posted a vlog on wednesdays for the last 3 weeks! Yay!

  • addie says:

    A message with a deep honest origin will always be received well. This is my favorite video of yours Mayi, keep it up!

  • Clare says:

    Your video made me cry.

    I can so relate.

    I am in the process of finding my authentic voice right now, especially with my business.
    It’s harder than I thought, especially because at first, I believed I was being myself and only now I am thinking I have been censoring the best parts of me.

    I just found out about you today and already am hooked.

    You are an inspiration.

    And I adore your accent.

  • Eva Linda says:

    Oh Mayi!!! You’re a strong woman and an example to follow.

    Levantas los Γ‘nimos con tus palabras y eres fuente de inspiraciΓ³n. Adelante, sigue con esto “hasta el infinito y mΓ‘s allΓ‘”.

    Un fuerte abrazo des de EspaΓ±a!!!

  • Amberlee says:

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. That was a really important story for me to hear. I am so inspired by your bravery. I’m struggling with finding my voice, partially because I feel like I have many voices. I think for now I need to stop trying for a while and just see what emerges.

    Can’t wait to watch your other videos. You are great : )

  • claire stone says:

    Holy schmoly! What a great video. I have (just – in the past 20 mins) decided to actively try to find my voice. I have been recording little snippets of videos of me so that I can a. see what I look like on camera. b. get some practice. c. figure out, by just doing it, how I sound and who I am.
    So far, 6 mini videos later, I have realised that I need a hair cut, I definitely need to wear my glasses when I video, that my voice isn’t as bad as I thought it was, and that I do a funny lip thing, which kind of makes me look like I am trying to be a bit like Elvis!!!!!!
    So much learned, in under 30 mins!
    thank you for being so brave, honest and brilliant

  • Stefani says:

    OK, now that I’ve gone to the bathroom to blow my nose and wipe my tears, I can write my comments. I just don’t even know where to begin, other than to say – WOW, THANK YOU, AMAZING, LOVE IT, DON’T EVER STOP, KEEP IT UP…and so on and so on!

    I can so totally relate to everything you said! I was balling – literally!

    A wise man once told me that someone was trying to “tone down my excellence”. It really stuck with me – because that’s what that person was truly trying to do. Well, she didn’t do it – because I came out of that crap of a situation (that she tried to tone down) smelling like a field of roses! I also continue to find people who don’t believe in me or don’t get excited about my ideas and endeavors – and 100% of the time it’s because they’re envious and wish they had the cajones to do what I’m doing.

    They’re going to make fun of me…and I’m just NOT going to care! I’m NOT going to change who I am or what I’m doing just to do what others think fits better with society. Uhm…WE are society…and my stuff (ideas, projects, etc.) will appeal to the people who are interested in it! Amen sister…keep going strong – you are AMAZING!!!!!

  • Ewa says:

    I love your courage πŸ™‚ I got to know ya yesterday in the CreativeLive workshop about blogging. You are absolutely fantastic, I mean gifted, motivating, and true in what you do. I love the way you shoot your videos, it’s really yours. The graphic design of this website is not only cute, but also easy to follow. Keep going! I started reading your blog yesterday, and… I can’t stop! It should be a sign that vicious gossips are for vain people and there is no need to bother about them. There will always be some people for whom you won’t count. Your tutorials are very informative, you seem to be an awesome motivator for other people, so DO NOT STOP. People need it. People need the motivation to live not just only to survive their life.
    Greetings from Poland πŸ™‚ and let’s hook up later in some other posts.

  • Katie says:

    My friend Kimberly shared your blog with me because I’m trying to get started. Like you, people keep telling me to do video. I did one yesterday and OMG!! it’s so hard to look at and listen to. So, thanks for this episode. It’s beautiful. You are beautiful too. And such an inspiration. <3

  • Megan says:

    This is so awesome. πŸ™‚ It’s cool to see that even 4 years later your honesty in a video can still have such an impact. It adds such a personal touch to watch/hear you tell your story instead of just reading it. Thanks. πŸ™‚

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