I mean girls.
I’m SO excited about this post!
If you’ve been following me on social media (on Instagram or Facebook), you know that it’s been a tough last couple of days. We’re “sleep whispering” Baby O into her big girl crib + helping her zzz longer stretches. We’re EXHAUSTED. If you don’t hear from me again, please dial 911. Tell them to pick us up with an ambulance, the helicopter kind, and inject us with Mickey Mouse ice cream bar elixir.
To tell you the truth, the hardest part hasn’t even been the lack of sleep. It’s been the emotional roller coaster, the upside down kind. The midnight loser tapes that tell you: “You’re not cut out for this mom gig. You’re not good enough.” So, I’ve been asking myself that question a lot lately, “Am I a good mom?”
And here’s what I came up with: I am the best mom when I’m OKAY.
Want to be a good mom? Take care of yourself.
How can you take care of yourself?
- Cry it out with a bestie who deserves to listen.
- Wear red lipstick.
- Take a bubble bath.
- Get a babysitter, or better yet, call grandma.
- Go to dance class.
- Give yourself a gold star for brushing your teeth.
- Treat yourself with your favorite breakfast.
- Wear stretchy pants.
- Quit your job, get one you love.
- Buy something online.
- Invite a friend over for a dessert cookoff.
Do whatever you need to do. But! DO IT.
Your baby needs you to be OKAY. We need you to be OKAY.
Being OKAY starts NOW!
And you know what makes me OKAY more than anything else in the world? Well, besides kisses from the Mr. of course. Dessert. Dessert making + dessert eating. That makes me the most OKAYist person in the galaxy.
And that brings me here.
To boost my OKAY levels, I’ve invited one of the smiliest + most crazy talented girl bosses I know for a Life is Messy Kitchen Sweet Cookoff, the friendly kind, where we both win + eat our own desserts over belly laughs.
Meet Rivca Zayat!
Rivca is the 24-year old who right out of college refused to set foot in an office. That’s when she opened her, now famous, Instagram account @FitSeed with the purpose of recreating not-so-healthy sweet recipes + turning them into good for you treats. She then went on to found FitSeed, “The Bakery” and the rest is history!
One thing that Rivca + I share is a love of food, the kind that loves you back. I will say, though, that Rivca is on another level than I am of loving food… making food… and fully living a healthy lifestyle.
I thought it would be fun to do an interview with her where we dive into her life with food + health in general. Let’s get to it!
1. Tell us something about you that’s not in your bio.
My best recipes are always inspired by someone, cooking is an act driven by love and inspiration!
2. What is your most “preciouzzz” moment or happiest memory in the kitchen?
It was something very unexpected! I have a client/good friend and she totally loves nutella and anything nut butter related (just like me hehe) and I remember that one day she stopped by my bakery and I happened to have a fresh batch of “Nutella” stuffed cookies (which btw I had not tried yet and were a NEW product I was going to release and I wanted her direct feedback) to make a long story short she tried the cookie and her eyes got teary and she told me she was having a VERY VERY bad day and that “my cookie” made her remember so many good memories (without feeling guily) of her late father and she started crying! This is a very SPECIAL memory since it was until that moment, which was not so long ago, that I understood the impact my “healthy treats” could have in a person, and I am so grateful to be able to convey such emotions though a single bite!
3. Any hot messes or complete cooking failures? We promise not to tell anyone (wink wink).
Humm… let me think! So… I wanted to make coconut fudge brownies but I don’t know what happened in the process and they ended up tasting like dirt! It was horrible haha, coconut flour has a very particular texture when it bakes and It was like the first time I was using it and it was not a good! Now, it is a whole different story, I am proud to say I have mastered the ART of baking with coconut flour.
4. What ingredients would you bring on a desert island with you if you could only pick 3?
Coconut, Dark Chocolate, Bananas. I mean these three are bomb.com by themselves, but combined they are even better. The cool thing about my first ingredient is its versatility, and if you know me you should know I am all about versatile ingredients, I could make coconut butter, coconut oil, coconut flour, coconut water… So that is my smart ingredient! Then, bananas are just perfect complements to anything and well I LOVE dark chocolate so I could live off these three.
5. What food is your kryptonite? You know, one you sneak in a little extra of when no one is looking.
Beans! Since I love baking, beans give an amazing texture to baked goods without the need of butter or dairy. I never mention this to my clients because the idea of beans in sweets freaks out people since we are so accustomed to eating them as a savory dish! But in Asia red bean paste of bean desserts is a must have. Then, when I tell them ”Oh btw it has beans!” they are surprised and are totally amused by the idea of beans in sweets!
6. When you want to treat yourself or loved ones what do you prepare?
Well, to treat myself It would definitely have to be something involving chocolate! I ACCEPT IT….I AM A CHOCOHOLIC!!! I recently made a lave cake with an almond butter filling and I am totally hooked so I guess that would be my treat. My family on the other hand…(my husband cough cough) is addicted to my cheesecake and when ever I have the chance I make a fresh batch for him with his FAV topping of all times, my decadent almond butter.
7. Are there foods that you won’t eat or don’t like?
I would eat anything except bugs haha… My daily diet consists of a lot of greens, lean proteins and complex carbs like oats and brown rice. I don’t eat dairy, refined sugars or processed stuff. I prefer natural and local ingredients. That being said, since I told you all I eat anything it is because I do, but I try to keep my eating habits pretty clean during the week and on the weekends I treat my self and go out to eat a pizza or something I am craving!
8. In case of a zombie apocalypse, what would you pick for your last meal? And who would you like to eat it with?
Ok so if I was a character from The Walking Dead (hehe addicted to the show btw) I would choose a Veggie Pizza with Tequeños on the side (current favorite) and it would be with my husband! I love going out and enjoy a glass of wine, good food and just catching up on how was our week.
9. Fill in the blank. Happiness is _________.
10. If we want to totally fan crush you, where can we follow?
On Instagram I’m at @fitseed and @fitseedpanama. My personal account is @rivcaz.
Sticky Cookies Filled with Expresso Ganash / Powered by @Fitseed
- 2 tablespoons coconut flour
- 1/3 cup almond flour
- 1/3 cup oat flour
- 1 tablespoon flax
- 1 tablespoon buckwheat flour
- 3 tablespoon stevia
- 1/2 teaspoon baking powder
- 1/2 teaspoon baking soda
- 3 tablespoon apple sauce
- 2 tablespoon date paste
- 2 tablespoon maple syrup
- 1/4 cup almond milk
Preheat your oven at 275. Mix your dry ingredients in one bowl. In a separate bowl mix your humid ingredients and mix until everything is well incorporated. Then proceed to place your humid ingredients into your wet ingredients and fold the mixture util it has a thick but creamy texture. Then divide your mixtures in your muffin tins (1/4 cup per mold) and place in your oven for 30 to 40 min or until golden. This recipe yields 7 muffins.
- 15 ounces of kidney beans cooked
- 2 tablespoon of espresso powder or instant coffee
- 1 tablespoon coconut oil
- 1 tablespoon cacao powder
- 2 tablespoons maple syrup
Place all ingredients in your food processor and mix until creamy. You need to pulse your food processor and scrape the sides as you go to achieve the creamiest consistency. Store in a mason jar and use as a ganash or spread for anything you can think of!
Bonus: Oh look! You can turn these cookies into muffins too. Same recipe. Different presentation. Awesome, right?
Cranberry Pecan Pie with Oatmeal Crust / Powered by @MayiCarles
- 1 1/2 cups rolled oats
- 1/4 cup coconut oil
- 1/4 cup maple syrup
- 1/2 teaspoon nutmeg
- Pinch of sea salt
Preheat your oven at 350. Put oats in the food processor + blend, until a rough flour is formed. Add the remaining ingredients, until well combined. When dough comes together, remove it from the food processor + gather it into a ball + put in the the center of a 9-inch pie pan. Press the dough out to the edges + sides. Prick holes in the dough with a fork. Bake for 10 minutes, until golden. Remove the crust from the oven + let cool. Leave the oven on.
- 1/2 cup barley malt syrup
- 1/4 cup maple syrup
- 1 tablespoons almond butter
- 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
- 1 teaspoon cinnamon
- 1 teaspoon arrowroot powder
- 1 cup chopped pecans
- 1 cup fresh or frozen cranberries (do not use dried cranberries)
- 1/2 cup fresh or frozen blueberries
- 1/2 cup whole pecans, to decorate
Put the barley malt + maple syrup + almond butter + vanilla extract + cinnamon + arrowroot in the food processor. Blend, until smooth. Transfer for a mixing bowl. Add chopped pecans. Fold in. Add cranberries + blueberries. Fold in. Pour the filling into the cooled crust. Decorate with the whole pecans. Bake for 30 minutes, until bubbling and evenly browned. Let the pie cool completely before slicing + serving.
A big thank you to Rivca for sharing this fabulous recipe with us + giving us a sweet peak inside her world.
Spending time with her in the kitchen was so much fun + it reminded me that real radical happiness is not something big + looming on the horizon ahead, but something teeny tiny + already here.
- Finishing a hot cup of tea without having to microwave it 7 minutes later.
- Watching a full episode of Game of Thrones without interruptions.
- Finding out the dress I’m about to buy is actually 50% off. Ah!
- The sound my phone makes every time a new order comes in… Ca-ching.
- Closing the office early on Friday to drive to the beach.
- Driving to such beach with the handsomest pilot, who also happens to have great taste in music.
- Praying Baby O falls a sleep so she doesn’t cry in her car seat the whole way, and having my wish granted.
- Indulging in the most delicious dessert + oh la la, finding out it’s totally healthy too.
Little, everyday joys all lines up in a row. That is it!
I wish you the happiest week EVER. Take care of yourself, alright? We need you to be OKAY!