My Pre-Friday Video Time Ritual

True tale: Found a battalion of eggplants in my fridge this morning. Pondered: “I can’t freeze them. I don’t think I can juice them. What am I gonna do with these?”

I Googled.

A Baked Eggplant Parmesan link popped up. I start salivating.

Clicked on the link. No pictures. Ain’t nobody got time for that!


Couldn’t get pass the pic with a flash. I mean, have you seen how radioactive food looks with a flash?

After 5 rounds of clicking + whining, I’m basically about to lose it. Mayi’s hungry people. H-A-M-B-R-E!

Lightbulb goes on: You Tube. Cue the celestial soundtrack. That’s where I met Dani Spies. Where have you been all my life girlfriend? Her clean twist on yo’ mama’s Eggplant Parmesan had me at play.

Made it. Ate it. Danced the champion song. That’s when I had the revelation: People wanna see how you do it!

Sure they like how to’s. Bullet points + checklists are nice too. Pretty pictures without flash are super. But sometimes, most times, people just want you to show them, not tell them, how it gets done. Skip the advice + the tips + the tricks. Show me, please!!!

Now, this goes against everything I’ve been thought + know to be true. Mayi, that’s me talking to myself, “You don’t give people the fish, you show them how to fish so they never go hungry again. Right?” Right.

That’s years of Catholic School for ya’.

But what if (stay with me for a sec), what if instead of giving people the 1 2 3’s + recommending them what fishing gear to get or empowering them to find their own fishing style, I just show them how I do it. Follow along. Like karaoke.

At first, I suspect they will just copy. Copying is bad, but not if you’re baking Eggplant Parmesan for hubby or not launching an Eggplant Parmesan e-book tomorrow.

First attempts are scary, so we’re tempted to follow the instructions word for word. But practice seeds confidence – confidence to break the rules + play + experiment + tweak a little something here + whoops why not add some carrots there. Bam!

We don’t stay amateur for very long when we admire our mentors. We honor their guidance by making up our own recipe.

Until now, I’ve only shown you how to fish. Today, for the first time E-V-E-R I want to show you exactly how I fish, so you can copy me, if you want. So you can practice with a life vest or like we call them around here “flotis”. So you can reach confident. So you can find your voice. So you can make it yours.

Your own is good.

To start the show not tell saga, I’m letting your inside my entire pre Friday Video Time ritual. Ta daaa…

I want to hear from you!

Was this helpful? Did you like it? Was this crazy? Am I crazy? Okay don’t answer that last one.


  1. Brilliant! (as an aside, your lighted mirror which you can bring close is sooooo what I, as someone with really bad vision needs!)

    It really helps to see what you do – I’ve just done my second ever video (yeah!) and I put on some make up for it, even though I don’t normally wear any, and I felt like a food doing it. But seeing the results, it looks soooo much better. My hubby even said I look hot in it, which is a massive compliment!!!!! So, knowing that you go the whole 9 yards is really helpful. I was just assuming that your natural good looks translate straight to film without any assistance (which I am sure they do) but seeing that has really opened up my very-occasionally-mascara’d-eyes!!!

    Fab as always – huge thanks!

    1. Ohhh yeah… I never wear make up + when I do it’s for FVT or a wedding. Period. 1-2 times a week is my all-time limit. No more. But notice the BIG difference on camera. Even when you do a natural quick fix like a do. I think the 2 biggest things are lipstick + mascara for me.

      Super excited to see hot Claire with marcara-eyes hehehehe. I only know pretty Claire 🙂

  2. Mayi,
    Thank you so much for the peek into your FVT ritual. It’s really fun great to see how things work for you behind the scenes. I haven’t made a video in forever, but I need to get back to it because video making makes me feel like a rockstar. And, I too am with Claire in wishing I had a light up makeup mirror. I love how you do your scripts on your computer and print them out + rehearse them. 🙂 And, thanks again for the links to the Blogging 101 series – it’s one of my favorites.

    1. I missed yoooooooooooouuuuuu girlfriend. Just seeing your little avatar in my comment feed lights me up 🙂

  3. I love this whole thing but especially this line “We don’t stay amateur for very long when we admire our mentors. We honor their guidance by making up our own recipe. ” Its so true! The more we respect someone the more we want to make them proud. Showing our process is so private that I can understand the reservations. This made me think that sharing is totally ok! I always want to know someone else’s why not show my own. Can’t wait to try, haven’t done videos yet because its kind of scary! This makes it SO approachable. I’m going to do my first soon!! Can’t wait to sop it all up Mayi! Muaks, peque. AMAZING stuff!! So cute! YAY!

    1. “The more we respect someone the more we want to make them proud.” YES YES YES. I feel the same way. You are adorable-bottled-up 🙂

  4. Hahaha!!!!!! I loved it!
    It’s so fun to see how people do the things they do best.
    Yes, not read, not hear, but SEE.
    Thanks for sharing this peek inside your life with us!
    I’d also love to see what your workweek looks like. What do you do and how do you do it.
    Maybe an idea for another FVT?!?

    1. What an AWESOME idea for a FVT. Thanks Jacolien. Will add it to my Monthly Blog Planner 🙂

  5. Hola Mayi! Me encanto este video. Hace mucho tome una clase de Final Cut y el maestro siempre nos decia que antes de filmar era vital tener un “storyboard”. Saber exactamente que tomas queremos filmar. Muchas gracias por el mini-curso de vlogging. Tengo ganas de empezar a filmar y ahora con las worksheets, estoy mas que entusiasmada!!!

    Hasta el proximo viernes!

  6. genial Mayi!
    thank you for sharing these moments with us.
    You are such a pro: even your dressing closet is impressive:)
    Long life to Friday video time!

  7. This was an awesome and fun change of pace. Thank you Mayi for being so entertaining and informative. You are right on – it does take a while to find your own style. Thank you so much for sharing yours – I look forward to Friday Video Time every week. Now I just need a closset full of beautiful clothes! Hmmmm :o)

  8. I always enjoy watching your Friday Video Time. You are always so positive and happy., What do you do on a daily basis to get yourself in that positive mind frame? I know that being happy is a decision and that’s what I chose to be everyday, but sometimes you wake up just feeling icky. What helps you get into the zone?

    Thanks for sharing!

  9. I love this Mayi! Thanks for showing us your behind the scenes action! I’m curious is you record one video every week or do you have a video day and record several at a time or one every week?

    1. This is something I could definitively talk about in more detail on a future episode, but in the meantime… I only tape ONE video at a time.

  10. I love behind the scenes!

    I’ve inhaled all your awesome Video 101 episodes and last night I finished editing my FIRST video. eeek

    All your work came in handy… to get some balls to post the thing 🙂

  11. Bwahahaha!!! You nailed the “editing” part of vlogging. Editing is the least fun part, but it has to be done. I love this behind the scenes look at FVT. And I completely agree with wearing lots and lots of mascara.

  12. You are on adorable dork!! (From one dork to another. Haha.) Oh I love your goofy style, Mayi!

    Love this behind-the-scenes peek. That really is a LOT of work/energy/love you put into your videos and it totally shows.

    This inspires me further to do more BTS videos ~ I was thinking about it, but now I want to make it a priority so thanks for that. 🙂

  13. I loved the behind the scenes look. Making videos is a lot of fun, and I love that you showed us just how easy it can be. I need to start making more videos, and let me tell you the honest reason why I stopped and maybe you can offer advise. I couldn’t figure out inexpensive (or FREE) resources to make my videos pop, such as Music, animations, etc… mostly music. I need some cute music as well as intro slides and wonder if you can recommend any resources that won’t break my small bloggers bank.
    Thansk Mayi! As always, You ROCK!!

    1. My first 100 videos were FREE. I used my built in camera + iMovie to edit. iMovie does come with music + lots of it isn’t a peace of crap. They also have transition animations + h to incorporate text. I actually STILL use iMovie. Making videos doesn’t need to cost 1 penny if you want to + you can manage to pull off all your first batch of episodes that way. Besides, I always like to say, don’t buy the golf gear until you’ve woke up for tee times more then twice. HOw else will you explain the investment to yourself + your family 🙂

      1. Thank you Mayi for your response…. I completely agree with you on the ability to make this a free situation… the only problem: I have a PC, not a MAC. I have used Windows Movie Maker, but there is no music included, and I have not found a way to make a professional looking intro with it. I’ve only come up with a slide with some text on it… BORING! Any suggestions?

  14. I love how giving you are in this video and showing your process. How long does this process take you including you editing? I find editing takes me forever and so I am less incline to do more videos. And you go with your pro closet walks in from your bathroom.

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